Indlela ukuba bahlukane uthando: icebiso nasengqondweni. Iyanyangeka Love

Phezu kwayo yonke -ngomtsalane iimvakalelo yothando, uninzi abafana namantombazana, kunye namadoda nabafazi banomdla nendlela yokuzifumana ngothando. Izizathu oku kuba baninzi: ukunqongophala kuphindaphindeko, yokungabikho kwexesha, ukungalingani ngokweemvakalelo, njalo-njalo. Ngethamsanqa, kwengqondo bayazi izixhobo ezinceda ukumelana nale meko.

Ngokungafaniyo uthando uthando

Kude asinguye wonke umntu akwazi ukumisela umda phakathi asingomkhwa ukuphumelela kunye nemvakalelo kakhulu. Ngaphezu koko, nkqu izazinzulu iisayikholojisti, abo benza ingamandla isifundo mba, ayikwazanga ukufikelela kwisigqibo eqhelekileyo. Noko ke, kusenokwenzeka ukuba eziliqela iimpawu ukugqiba umahluko phakathi kothando lothando.

Ngaba kufuneka ukuba balahle uthando?

Ngaphambi wokuqonda ukuba ayibulale njani uthando, kufuneka uqonde ukuba okanye hayi, ukuba wenze oko. Ngelishwa, yinto imvakalelo emangalisayo akusoloko ukuze kuxhamle woMntu. Yilwa limi kwezi meko zilandelayo:

• ukuba into lalingazi akuthethi bangasabeli iimvakalelo zakho;
• Ukuba uthando iba nefuthe elibi kwimpilo yengqondo emzimbeni wakho;
• Ukuba eqhutywa ngekhwele zophendlo lwezifo;
• Ukuba ufumana uncamathiselo manic kumntu;
• ukuba imvakalelo yothando kuphazamisana izifundo zakho okanye umsebenzi.

Ngelishwa, asingabo bonke intombazana ngothando okanye umntu oselula unako ukumelana nale ngxaki. Kunoko, baya kuba ngandlela zonke ukuba ukukhanyela ubukho bayo. Ukuba abahlobo kunye nosapho ungaqaphela ezinxaxhileyo ekuhambeni kwexesha.

Iindlela uthando okunyangayo

Ukuba ngaba ufuna unyango ngenxa yothando, zama ukuthatha ithuba iingcebiso bengqondo. Umzekelo, ezi ndlela zilandelayo zezona ethandwa:

• ngokuba lulondolozo lokuthintela kuya kukunceda uphephe karhulumente okungafunekiyo. Ukuba ucinga ukuba ngoku lixesha lokuba uthando, zama ukuba alwe nayo yonke obubonakala: musa ukufunda iinoveli, musa ukubukela opera isepha rila, musa ukuphulaphula umculo lusizi, kwaye okona kubalulekileyo - unxibelelwano umda kunye besini esahlukileyo.
• Ukutolikwa ubhalo ithetha ukuba kufuneka ujonge kwi imeko evela ngaphandle. Zama ukuhlola zonke iingenelo neengozi imeko yakho.
• Ukungqinelana indlela inkawu de Vega, kucetyiswa ukuba ukuthatha isitokhwe yenjongosenzi lithatha yakhe. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba iimpawu ezimbi kuye uya kuba phezulu kakhulu ezakhayo.
• indlela ezenziwe ziya kukuvumela ukuba ubone ikamva. Khawucinge nje ngoko ubuhlobo bakho ngeveki, inyanga, unyaka. Ukuba akuyiboni ngezinto ezilungileyo elizayo, ngokukhawuleza balahle luthando.
• Ukuze kwenzeke iingcinga ezishelfini, ugcine indlela eyiyo yokuphila. Kufuneka ube imisebenzi, uxanduva ukuzenza. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba engqondweni abasayi kuba akukho ndawo ngamaphupho zothando.
• Talk ngqo kunye nomhlobo, isalamane okanye ngengqondo - yeyona unyango ngothando. Iinkcukacha ukubalisa ibali lakho, aba maninzi amathuba kubo ukuza kwisigqibo sokuba kukho nemvo kuni yingozi.

Ucebisa ukuba Freud?

USigmund Freud baduma ngenxa imfundiso yakhe ngenkalipho ukuba zonke izenzo zabantu ziqhutywa ithuku kuphela ngokwesini. Noko ke, ngenxa yokuba lo sengqondo, abaninzi abazithathi nzulu izindululo. Kodwa kunjalo kuyimfuneko ukuphulaphula icebiso lakhe nendlela yokuzifumana ngothando.

Freud wanikela ingqalelo ekhethekileyo emqondweni othile, njengoko sublimation. Uthando inika amandla umntu. Ukuba oku imvakalelo ngenxa yezizathu okanye omnye akufuneki ukuba, zama ukuguqula ibe kwenye ifomu. Ukuqondisa mandla, umzekelo, kubugcisa, ezemidlalo, imfundo kunye namanye amanqanaba. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba uyakwazi ukufikelela iziphumo emangalisayo.

Yeza lugqwesileyo - luguquka

Njengoko yaziwa, ukuba bamelane kwimeko ethile lwengqondo, kufuneka utshintshe iimeko zangaphandle. Ngoko uthando yena uyakwazi balahle iimvakalelo esilawulayo Asebenzisa la manyathelo alandelayo:

• olukhulu utshintsho lomfanekiso (iinwele, ngubo njalo);
• ukufumana zokuzonwabisa ezintsha (okanye ungaya umva ikuba ukuba umthabathile umntwana);
• abazana ezintsha umdla (mhlawumbi kunye nethemba ukuthandana);
• umahluko nokuba (ukuba wena akunguye nako ukuhamba, zama ukuhlola umzi wabo befuna kweendlela ezintsha kunye neendawo esihamba);
• utshintsho kubomi bemihla ngemihla (umzekelo, unako ukwenza ihamba ifanitshala, okanye ufunde ukupheka izitya ezintsha).

Ngaphandle koncedo omthandayo musa

Ukuba ukhangela iindlela balahle uthando, kunye kwinkxaso yentsapho nabahlobo. Into yokuba intliziyo sifumana kunzima kakhulu ukubanyamekela yedwa. Ngamanye amaxesha ingxaki sibi kangangokuba kuphela ngoncedo yesisombululo ezingqonge yenziwe kunokwenzeka. Yiyo le nto kufuneka ube neentloni ukufuna uncedo.

Ukhetho best - incoko ngokunyanisekileyo. Xa umhlobo, isizalwane, ugxa emsebenzini - akunamsebenzi. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo - sixelele ngokuphandle malunga nazo zonke izinto zawo. Ubuya kumangaliswa, kodwa nangoko kuba lula. Ukongeza, kuyenzeka ukuba umlingane wakho ebekhe ngaphambili imeko efanayo. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ekupheleni incoko, uya sihleke ndawonye kule ngxaki, nto leyo ezimbalwa iiyure ezidlulileyo kwabonakala gqithi.

ukuqaphela

Indlela ukuba balahle nothando ukhathazeka? Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka therapy kukothuka. Ukuba lover lakho kodwa uyazazi iimvakalelo zakho, kutheni baxelele ngqo? Kakade ke, oko kungelula, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuza ebomini bakho. Le meko azikho kakhulu;

• yena (okanye) ziya kukucekisa iimvakalelo zakho ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuba ukuphoxeka okukhulu, kodwa oko kuya kukunceda ukuyeka;
• ukuze kulunge ukuba into lwakho uthando, kanye njengoko wenjenjalo, uziva uthando, kodwa madolo ayamnkele (uza kufumana ithuba lokwakha ubuhlobo obuluqilima nethemba lophuhliso ngakumbi apho kunjalo).

iziphumo

Indlela ukuba balahle isimo uthando? Ekuqaleni lo mbuzo usenokubonakala bubudenge, engaphucukanga, ngenxa yokuba wonke umntu uya ngokusebenzisa amava yothando. Nakuba kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba uthathe ingqalelo iimpawu zengqondo ngamnye ngamnye. Maxa wambi uthando nje kuphazamisana nesikolo kunye nomsebenzi, kodwa kunokubangela iingxaki ezinkulu zengqondo kunye imizamo yokuzibulala, nto leyo kuyo nayiphi na imeko kufuneka kungavunyelwa. Kungenxa yoko le nto bengqondo mihla byi loo ingqalelo kulo mba.