Indlela ukuba balahle wetyala

Unetyala wezengqondo ephatha njengendlela yokusabela kwiziganeko, apho asikwazanga ukuya kumhlathi, bazisa umntu, ngokufuthi - zange ukuhlangabezana nokulindelweyo. Ngokubanzi, ukuvela ndiziva - uvavanyo litmus lohlengahlengiso kwibutho labantu, ukukwazi ukuba bahlole izenzo zabo, ukuba uzithelekise kunye kulindelekileyo. Njengoko naye kunye abakulindele kwabanye. Ngaphakathi sizathu. Hi nga netyala, oko kukuthi, ukuba azive enetyala xa owone umntu, emva kwexesha, ukuba noxanduva into yokuba "into ephosakeleyo" na. Ingxaki siyifumana yokuba isabelo yengonyama abantu badla ukuthatha uxanduva yonke into phezu: Umama wacaphuka, ngoko buhlungu kuye. Ngumnyeni ngumsindo namhlanje, ngoko ke isuphu alisilingene elungileyo ukulungele ityala. Kwaye kakhulu ngakumbi. Umgaqo gca ngokubanzi.

Oko kudla uxanduva, kwaye nayo - ityala into ayikho nako ukungena ayanda. Le iwayini fanele ezifanele olo didi bangonwabi, kwaye kufuneka ukuba ayibulale. Kodwa ukwenza njalo, njengokuba umthetho, kunzima kakhulu. Lo mkhwa yokugxeka wena zonke iziphako abantu ehleli ngokuqinileyo kuthi kwaye musa nje shwaka. Ngoko ke indlela bazigxotha iimvakalelo unetyala?

1. Kufuneka kucace gca malunga imiqathango "ofisi 'yakho. Xa lo mbuzo olula kubangela ubunzima, ukudala uluhlu apho indlela ethile ukuzikhetha zonke ezo iintshukumo kaninzi ukuba omnye kwinkxalabo unetyala okanye ezo zihlandlo, emva koko kwenzeka engaqondanga nandzu, "emva kwexesha emsebenzini", "Musa kubiza xa wathembisa (a) "" Lo incoko kunye nomama wam, "njl Liqulunqa uluhlu, umele uchithe iintsuku ezimbalwa ukwenzela ukuba siqonde ngcono ingcambu unetyala.

2. Xa uluhlu ukulungele, kunokwenzeka ukuqalisa uhlalutyo. Ukuba isekelwe phezu ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi ngqo nolucacileyo ezifana "Ndahlukana indoda yefowuni yakhe", "Ingaba uyilibele malunga isikhumbuzo," zako yimvakalelo eqhelekileyo ityala ukujongana utsho yenza ucacelwa kwiimeko ezingaqhelekanga. Malunga kubo - ngezantsi. Noko ke, ukuba uluhlu yenziwe zeenkcazo efanayo, ezifana "Andikwazanga aphumeze ezilindelekileyo," "Into buhlungu," "ingqondo ngokungacacanga ityala emva The ingadliwa" - yinto ithuba lokucinga ukuba balahle wetyala. Amagama amorphous ngakumbi ezingacacanga, kokukhona 'azicaci yaye ukudubuleka "imvakalelo, iwayini esahleli yakho ezinzulu. Kodwa ukuba sele maphakathi isicombululo.

3. ingqiqo esisigxina ityala kufuneka Umzamo. Okokuqala ukuqonda apho pinches yezihlangu. Uninzi "kusoloko unetyala" ukhulele kwintsapho kunye neemfuno eziphakamileyo. Abantwana kwiintsapho ezinjalo ilayini encinane okanye akukho ngesiphoso, badla kuthelekiswa afunda ngempumelelo ngakumbi, inzala abamelwane '. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, into eziphambili: akafundi ukujongana ixhala kwaye, iwayini nangona ngaphantsi zilinywe rhoqo.

Indlela ukuba balahle wetyala, ukuba nayo abantwana entsatsheni? Okokuqala, yazi ukuba - unayo na umntwana, kwaye ngoku ukhululekile ukuba isigqibo xa unetyala, yaye xa - kungekho. Okwesibini, uthathe ilungelo lakho lokuba engalunganga. Bonke abantu abahlala engalunganga, ukususela koku (kwaye oku ingongoma ebalulekileyo!) Akukho namnye wafa, le ntlekele lwenzeke.

4. Olu qeqesho eziviwayo akunakwenzeka ukuba nayiphi na isiphumo kwixesha elifutshane. Yenza ukuba ibe ngumkhwa ukugcina umkhondo ityala kunye ingcamango kuye kwavela endaweni enye: "Kufanelekile ukuba iphosakele ndiyayamkela ngokwam.". Ekuhambeni kwexesha, ukuba okunene mkhuba ibe rhoqo, uya kuphawula ukuba le meko ababeke bakhonza nje lever ukuzama self-netyala, kwaye ngoku kunokubangela basabela ngendlela eyahlukileyo.

5. Makhe sibuyele ngabo bahlangabezana ngokusisigxina ityala kwi zesiqhelo kunye ngemihla, kodwa ngokupheleleyo iimeko enomahluko (bona isitanza. 2). Cinga ngalo, ukuba ubanjwe kwi liqothaqikili ngentola? "Darling, wena na iintyatyambo wayithenga, Ndiziva buhlungu," "ozithandayo wam, ukuba uqhubeka ukupheka ngoko ndiza isidlo kunye nabahlobo kwindawo yokutyela." Wena gwenxa. Indlela ukuba balahle ityala kunje? Thatha kalula into yokuba umntu ngamnye ayinaxanduva nje lokuchukumiseka kwethu, kodwa ke unelungelo lokukhetha impendulo zabo izenzo zakho, nokuba buhlungu, umsindo, okanye ezinye iimvakalelo.

Unetyala - an kuyabuya elibi. Psychology usifundisa ukujamelana nayo.