Amaninzi e udliwano-ndlebe nabantu abaziwayo ndivakalisa ukuba umgangatho wakhe ukugqibelela. Bethetha njengoko ngumbandela engenakuphikwa, kodwa ingaba oku ngokwenene kunjalo? Namhlanje siya kuzama ukuyisombulula ukuba ngubani na ukuba thina siphelele. Kwaye kungekho mntu onjalo ukuze uphumelele?
Okokuqala, makhe sibuyele kwenkcazo kota. Vula iphepha wacela idikshinari ukufunda ukugqibelela - umntu lizibophelele ekuqinisekiseni ukuba zonke ebinazo wayefezekile. Kodwa aba bantu abasebenzi kubalulekile, ngaphandle iinkonzo akakwazi kwenza na umbutho? Makhe isigqibo ngubani na ukuba thina siphelele. Yaye ngaba yinyani ukuba loo abantu nanto yakwenza kwezoshishino? Ukuba uthatha bazijongisise ngubani ukugqibelela, ngoko nangoko ukuba ubuthathaka bakhe ziyabonakala. Ngenxa yokunqwenela yayo yendalo zokulunga ukuze umqeshwa ngonaphakade, kulahleni oku ukwenza izinto kunye ukunikela ixesha ukufunda imfundiso ukuba akasoze nobuganga isicelo practice. Akumangalisi xa kuqeshwa abaviwa baye kubingelela zeemvavanyo psychology, leyo ijolise ekuchongeni le ebizwa ngokuba "entsonkothileyo kakhulu".
Kubonakala ukuba abantu nje abaqapheli ukuba ihlabathi ayikho ogqibeleleyo kwaye abakwazi ukufunda nantoni na ixesha lokuqala. Kutheni na ufuna ungumsebenzi kuntsonkothile uya ukucwangcisa nokuphuhlisa ingqiqo efanelekileyo, umzekelo, ukuthetha kubaxumi, ukuba lwalo iingcamango zakhe, usoloko uya kubamba off ngoMvulo olandelayo. Kwelinye icala, lwela zokulunga nangoku kuyimfuneko, ngoko kufuneka nje ukuba ufunde ukonwabela nkqu kwimpumelelo esemthe- zincinane. Kwaye ngoko uya kuba nengxaki ukuzithemba!
Ke kaloku, ukuba ndiye ndicinge ukuba ngubani na ukwenza izinto ngokugqibeleleyo, ndiyathemba ke ndaqonda ukuba olu phawu akuyongqinisekiso lokuphumelela, nangona kuyinto eqhelekileyo laureates ezininzi Nobel. Yintoni imfihlelo yabo? Kufuneka ukuba ube ngokuvisisana ngokwayo. Kakade ke, wabeka phandle ngokupheleleyo ukuze baphumeze iinjongo zabo - yinto enkulu ngenene, kodwa musa ukukhathazeka ngenxa yokuba isiliphu encinane. Ngoko ke, kufuneka basebenze thina imilinganiselo ukuba ngokungeyomfuneko ephezulu yokuthobela! On ukukhangelwa isisombululo efanelekileyo ingathatha ixesha elininzi, ngoko ke kungcono ukuba ngoku?
Njengokuba kuphawuliwe kwengqondo, "A syndrome umfundi" livela ebuntwaneni. Abazali abaninzi bafuna kakhulu ebantwaneni babo; uqikelelo kakhulu iirekhodi kwezemidlalo, njl Ekuhambeni kwexesha, umntwana uqala ukuba azive ukuba wayemthanda kuphela iziphumo zakhe kunye nempumelelo. Akukho nto ayimangalisi kukuba ekhula, ufuna ukuba i intle yonke into. Loo mntu uyazi ubukrakra ukusilela kakhulu kakuhle, kuba esoyika ukuba abazali, ephelile ezibangqongileyo bamthandayo.
Ingaba Kufuneka phutha ukuzama ukutshintsha? Ukuba akukho ngquzulwano kunye noluntu, ingqiqo kongenelelo engqondweni apho. Kweli nqanaba, lo mntu ngokulula ukumelana nayo yonke into ngokwam. Kufuneka kuphela ukuba bafunde ukuze siphozise ingqondo, bazibekele iinjongo azuzwe kwaye banandiphe ubomi. Khumbula ukuba wonke umntu unelungelo lokwenza iimpazamo!