Abantu abaninzi abanakukwazi ukukhawuleza ukuba bafumanisa imeko engeyona imeko. Ukuba awuyiyona nkwenkwezi evela kwihlabathi lokubonisa ishishini, kwaye awulandelwa yinkxwaleko yabantu abanomdla, ngoko, mhlawumbi, uva ukuvuma kweemvakalelo kungekhona imihla ngemihla. Xa umntu etshilo amagama anjalo, wabelane nawe ngeemvakalelo zabo zokwenene, kufuneka ukwazi kakuhle ukuphendula "Ndiyakuthanda" ukuze ungalimazi umntu. Eli nqaku liyakunceda uqonde le meko kwaye ungaphumeleli ngexesha elibaluleke kakhulu.
Ngokwesiko, kukholelwa ukuba owokuqala ukuvuma ukuthandana kufuneka abe ngamadoda. Ewe, zonke iintombazana ziyavuya kakhulu kwaye zidibanisa ukuva amazwi anjalo, kubomntu ongathandanga. Kulo mzekelo, akufanele uhlazise umntu onamazwi angaqhelekanga, aqhelekileyo afana nawo: "Ndiyathanda," "Ndiyonwabile kuwe," "Ndiyabonga," njalo njalo. Iimpendulo ezinjalo zingambulala umntu oqinisekileyo, akazange alinde ukuvula kuwe ixesha elide, udlule ngokuzikhukhumeza kunye nokwesaba ukulahlwa.
Umfazi wangempela ongenandaba nomntu owaziwayo akasoze enze njalo. Ngoko uthini ngo "Ndiyakuthanda"? Ukuba awunayo imizwa ngomntu, ngoko akufanele umnike ithemba lokuqalisa ubudlelwane. Kubalulekile ukuthetha yonke into ngokuthe ngqo, kodwa ukhethe amagama aya kumqinisekisa ukuba ubalulekile kuwe, ukuba awufuni ukulahlekelwa nguye ngenxa yokuba uthando aluhambisani. Ngokuqinisekileyo, unokutsho ukuba awufanelanga yena, ukuba nawe akayi kuvuya ngokwenene, kodwa la mazwi, kunoko, afana nesizathu, kunokuba unqwenela ukuzola umntu. Amagama angabonakaliyo kwidilesi yabo abonisa ukuba loo mntu wayephosakeleyo, exelele ngeemvakalelo zakhe, kuba unobungozi kakhulu kunokuba wayecinga. Umntu ongaxelelwa ngempendulo kwinto alindele ukuva, kwaye kunzima, ngoko akudingeki ukuba ugqibe. Ngoku uyazi ukuba ungathini "Ndiyakuthanda".
Ukuba umfazi uthetha ngeemvakalelo zakhe, ngoko kunzima ukunqanda kwakhe ngobuchule. Njengoko uyazi, amantombazana aphefumlelweyo kunabantu abancinci, ngoko ukwenqaba kwabo kukuyintlungu, ukudideka okukhulu kubo kunye nabameli bekota elomeleleyo yoluntu ngokubanzi. "Ndiyakuthanda!" Yiyiphi impendulo kumazwi anyanisekileyo avela kwintombazana entle, mhlawumbi kufuphi nawe emoyeni, kodwa ingabangela ukuba nemizwelo yenzeke? Musa ukuthula, ungayihleka. Awukwazi ukucinga ukuba yintoni imizamo awayeyenzayo ukuze avume yonke into kuwe. "Abasetyhini akumele bathethe eli binzana kuqala" - oku kukusetyenzwa okufunyenwe ngokwesini esilungileyo ukususela ebuntwaneni.
Enyanisweni, akukho myalelo opheleleyo wokuphendula indlela umbuzo othi: "Uyayithanda?" Yonke into incike kwiimpawu zengqondo kunye nomntu onqabayo, kunye nomntu ophikayo. Into ephambili kukuba uhlale uhloniphekile kwaye uyanqwenela ngokumalunga nomntu onokuxelela amagama amahle kakhulu kwihlabathi.
Ukuba uziva uvakalelwa ngomntu, ngoko akukho mbuzo wento oza kuthetha ngayo "Ndiyakuthanda". Yithi imvakalelo iyabelana, kwaye uvuyo!