Ukuziqhenya nokuzingca - yintoni umehluko?

Kule akhawunti, kuluntu lwethu kukho imibono eyahlukileyo. Abanye bakholelwa ukuba ukuqhayisa nokuzikhukhumeza zichasene ngokukodwa, ezinye zifana nento efanayo. Yaye iinguqulelo eziphathelele ezi mpawu zomntu ziyahluka phakathi kwabantu abakholwayo kunye nabantu belizwe.

Ukuba ufunda iBhayibhile kunye noBawo Oyingcwele beCawa, ngoko isiphelo sikhombisa ukungabonakali: ukuzingca nokuzikhukhumeza- amagama ayingcambu-eyodwa kunye neyona nto iyinto efanayo. Ukuziqhenya kukungendawo encinane, kuthelekiswa nesisu esinobulunga, kwaye ukuqhosha kunokuthelekiswa nesifo esibi, esibangela ingozi enkulu kubo bobabini kunye nabantu abazungezile. Kutheni?

Igama elithi "ukuqhosha" liqukethe isethi yonke yeempawu ezinjengezinto ezingento, ukuzithemba, ukungahloneli ngokungafanelekileyo kwabanye, njalo njalo. Yaye ukuba ukhangele kwisichazamazwi sikaDahl, usenokongeza kule nkcazo: ukuzikhukhumeza, ukuzidla, ukuziqhenya, ukuzidla. Ukuziqhenya, ngokweZibhalo eziNgcwele, kukuqala kwesono. Ngesinye isikhathi, ngaphambi kokuba kuvele intlanga, ingelosi enkulu kunazo zonke, uDennitsa, yaba neqhayiya kangangokuba wayefuna ukufana noThixo. Yintoni eyabangela ukuba? Ukulwa, ukwahlukana kunye nokuphonswa kweengelosi eziwileyo ehlabathini. Ngoko kwakukho ububi. Okulungileyo malunga nokuzikhukhumeza akunanto.

Abantu belizwe bakholelwa ukuba ukuqhosha nokuzikhukhuma zizinto ezimbini ezahlukeneyo. Kuziqheno ukutsho ukuba kulungile, oku kuzingca , kwaye njengoko sasifundiswa ngamaxesha aseSoviet: "Indoda iyandiqhenya." Isidima nokuzikhukhumeza - izinto zihlukile, ukuqala kwekratshi kuvela ekungazi, ngokwazo iimpawu zangaphakathi. I-Prelate Tikhon Zadonsky ibhala ukuba ukuba umntu uyazi, akayi kuba nekratshi! Umntu osuleleke ngokukratshi, udelela yonke into, ubeka ingcamango yakhe ngaphezu kwabanye, uyacaphukiswa ngabanye abantu abangakwazi ukungaziqondi, angaziboni.

Ukuziqhayisa nokuzikhukhumeza kufana nokuba umntu obathintelayo uyaziphakamisa, akaphulaphuli abadala, akanakuthobeka, akawamukelanga icebiso, uyamthuka, wenza intando yakhe njalonjalo. Ngokwemilinganiselo yelizwe, ezi ziimpawu ezilungileyo nje, ezinye zikhalazo, zilapha abantu ngoku zizinto, abazikhukhumezi, bazingca phambi kolawulo lwabo, abaziboni izimvo zabo. Ngoko uqonde, ngubani ochanekileyo kule meko.

Ukuba uyawuqonda umbuzo: ukuzingca - kukubi okanye kulungile, unokubona ukuba iimbono kule ngxaki ziyahlukana phakathi kwabakholwayo kunye nabo bahlala kude nokholo. Ukuzikhukhumeza kwabo bobabini akubangeli imbono. Kufana nesiphumo sokuzikhukhumeza, sisontekile, ngamanye amaxesha sikhulisiwe kwaye sichaphazeleka. Ukuqala ngento engekho nto, ukuqhosha kungafikelela ubukhulu obuhle kwaye bulethe umntu esihogweni. Kwaye ingozi enkulu kukuba akukho nanye isono esingakhula kumlinganiselo omkhulu kangaka njengale.

Ukuziphakamisa kukukhokelela ekugwetyweni-ukuba kukho isono esibhubhayo. Kwaye iBhayibhile ithi ukuba awugwebi abanye abantu, ngoko awuyi kugwetywa. Zingaphi izihlandlo esizigwebayo izenzo kunye nezenzo zabantu, sicinga ukuba asinjalo! Kwaye ke iNkosi ivumela ukuba siwele ezonweni ezifanayo, ukusizisa ekuthobekeni. Umntu, ukuqonda oku, ucinga: njani ukukrazula ukuzikhukhumeza, yintoni okufuneka uyenze oku?

Masibuyele kuBawo Oyingcwele abasifundisayo ukuba ubuhle, okuchasene nekratshi, uthando. Ukuba umntu umthanda ummelwane wakhe, akayi kumgweba, akayi kudunyiswa ngaye, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo uya kuzama ukuqonda, ukuncedisa nokumxhasa. Ngoko, kuvela ukuba unokukrazula uqhayiya ngoncedo luthando. Uthande ungenabugovu, xa unikezela yonke into kwaye awufuni into enokuzibuyisela yona. Xa wenza okulungileyo ukuba ungabuyiselwa kuwe kamva kamva, kodwa ngenxa yokuba uyamthanda umntu kwaye unqwenela kuphela ukulungelelanisa nangentliziyo yakho yonke. Kwaye oku kubaluleke kakhulu ukubona kuwo wonke umntu olungileyo okukuwo, kwaye ungayifuni imiphumo. Kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe, inyathelo ngesinyathelo, unokukukhukhumeza nokuphakama ngaphezu kwabanye abantu.