Umntwana uyaganga. Yintoni ukwenza ntoni?

Mhlawumbi wonke ukubukela umboniso zaziligezela kwivenkile okanye emarikeni, xa umama oselula uzama ukutsala ingalo kude ekhawuntareni ukukhala kunyaka 4-5 umntwana ubudala efuna ukuba athenge imoto, umpu, unodoli, iilekese, ice cream - uluhlu alupheli. Yonke imizamo yakhe zingumphunga - emntwaneni wakhe ekhala ukuba kutshajwe namandla, kwaye kumbulala nokumemeza uye hysterics.

A lot of abaxhasi yabafazi ukuzama ukumbopha. Akukho mntu uhlawula ingqalelo ukuba incinane "blackmailer" ngokusondeleyo ukubukela into eyenzekayo ngeenxa zonke kuye. Ukuba simele sicinge ukuba ngaxa onke nabuya umva, uqala ukwenza into yabo, umntwana ngokukhawuleza kakhulu sokwehlisa waphethulela ingqalelo yakhe into.

Ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana sibalise - nguye lowo akwazi ukufundisa ilungelo ukuncokola, ukuba athethe, yaye indlu yakhe yokuphumeza ezinqwenelekayo kuphela amava wazuza ukuya kunyaka. Ezizezi - axoke ndize ndikhale.

Kwingcingane komntwana phantsi konyaka omnye ngokupheleleyo swi zonxibelelwano kunye nabantu abadala ezingqongileyo, ikakhulu kunye nonina. Ekuqaleni, yena ufumana ingqalelo ngokwabo ngokusebenzisa ekhala. Ngelishwa, xa kungekho ingqalelo efanelekileyo kwezi zixhobo yohlala esandleni wentombi iminyaka.

I asifuni ukucaphukisa abazali abaninzi, kodwa ukuba une umntwana sibalise, ngoko wena akunguye igunya kuye. Cinga ngemeko eqheleke kakhulu ukuba ebonisa ekuweni abazali kwamanqwanqwa. unina Young ngokuzimisela ukuthetha efowunini umhlobo wakhe ngeyure phantse i.

Umntwana uyaduka ujikeleze indlu, bengazi ukuba mabenze ntoni. Wacela unina ukuba amnike i-apile. Umama akayihoyi yena kanye ngemoto ukuya egumbini lakhe. Ke yena akabi ashiye imi ecaleni kwenye, eqalisa ukulila, ewela phantsi, ukukhalaza ilizwi. Njengoko usazi, incoko kunye nomhlobo ubhuqiweyo, ukukruquka umama esiya ifriji kuzisa umntwana apile ezimbini.

Umntwana ngokukhawuleza liyaqonda ukuba sikanina "hayi" Asiyiyo lokugqibela, ke ngoko, phulaphula umama ayikho kuyimfuneko, nendlu eyintloko - kuba efumene apile, okanye ezimbini.

umntwana akulinikwanga iqala ukuqonda ukuba umama wakhe akakukhathalele ngokupheleleyo oko ngenene Kwakufuneka na i-apile, kunye nengqalelo. Kukho umfanekiso wezinto lentlawulelo. I ekhulile umntwana lowo, kokukhona ebiza kakhulu oko kuyingozi abazali abanjalo endaweni ingqalelo.

? Badla kakhulu ukunxibelelana umntwana, oomama abaninzi wanciphiswa amaqela ezimbalwa umqeqeshi - "kuhlala, ndathi," isusiwe "isandla," njalo njalo Xa umama uthi: "Mna umntwana olitshijolo, wenza ntoni ngayo", Impendulo .. njengoko kubonakala phezu komhlaba. Simele siyeke ukuba ukunxibelelana zombini ubuchule ukuqeqesha izilwanyana.

Umntwana ekhula, utshintsho, kunye nabazali kaninzi abanalo ixesha ngaye. Ukuba ubuhlobo abazali umntwana wabo abawuthandayo akayi sivumelane nazo zakhe aziyi kupheliswa nkqu iminyaka. Ngaphambi kokuba ukhalaze malunga nento ukuba umntwana olitshijolo, qala ngokwakho. Funda indlela ukunxibelelana naye njengomntu omdala, hayi "Teketa", musa ukuzama ukwenza naliphi na bethanda yayo, acacisele itakane zonke izigqibo ozenzayo.