Umona amhlophe namnyama. Indlela ukuba balahle umona?

Umona - a vice yabantu, apho phantse akukho namnye wakha ingqalelo. Abantu ungabonisa nokuzingxala ngokutya, ubuhule, ubuvila okanye ikratshi, kodwa musa nomona. Akumangalisi, ngenxa yokuba lo mntu avakalelwa nomsindo abantu abalungileyo, okanye unobuhlobo abamelwane ukubandezeleka, akunakwenzeka ukuba nabani na novelwano.
Kumaxesha Soviet, bonke bayalingana, kwaye nokuba umntu kwakhona yajika 'ulingana ngaphezu kwabanye ", zange akazange abonise ubutyebi babo. Yintoni enokuthethwa maxesha ethu. Kumabonwakude yaye kumaphephandaba zonke ngoku baze bazibale nemali emibhinqweni abanye abantu, nokuba isekela yamali, abadlali okanye imifuziselo awabalulekanga. Mali eyothusayo, yaye apha iqala ingumona indlela, umbuzo othi: "Kutheni na zonke omnye kunye nomnye nto." Umona izalwa ingqwalasela enkulu kumba sikweni.
Onomona zombini amadoda kwanabafazi. Ukuba wake up Nekhwele abantu besini esahlukileyo, utsho onekhwele ngumntu wakho wesini. Abasetyhini unomona nobuhle kwezinye manenekazi, amadoda ubutyebi wesiqingatha olomeleleyo lobuntu, bavele kunye umona abantu amathamsanqa, italente, ulwazi kunye nezakhono, iziyolo kunye nolutsha. Kodwa akukho namnye wakha akukho namnye bakubona oku umona.

Yintoni umona? Indlela ukufunda ukuzibona? Ikak bafunde ukuba ube nomona? Zama ukuqonda ezi na imibuzo lula.

Umona emhlophe. Indlela ukuba balahle umona emhlophe?
Umona "ngobubele", xa uqala, ukuziva ekufutshane wayoliswa kwaye mhlawumbi injini inkqubela: Ndifuna le nto inye, ngoko qiniseka uya kukuzuza.
Enyanisweni, isiseko sothelekiso isoloko ngumona - yaye kwabanye akunakuthethwa malunga ayobe. Ungabona ubuchule yokudweba baziinkosi zabo, kodwa soze thelekisa ngokwam nabo. Ukuthelekisa wena nabani na kulo mzekelo - akulungile. By the way ndingathanda ukucaphula Hope: "Musa thelekisa: uhleliyo nanto." Ukuba ucinga kukho umntu ababelungile kunawe, uze zisiba mbi ngenxa yoko - ukuziva ungafaneleki, ingqumbo nenzondo.
Umona zizakubalulwa Okukodwa yayo iminqweno ezilula. Ukuba ufuna indlu ngaselwandle nje - lo mnqweno. Yaye ukuba indlu ukuba zifane ne- ummelwane yesiza, kungenzeka - wena ummelwane unomona.
Indlela ukuba balahle umona emhlophe?
Ukuba uvakalelwa ngokucacileyo phambi ebomini yakho mayingabamoneli emhlophe, kufuneka ngokukhawuleza uqale ukuba benze kanye ngendlela apho umdlali wakho uye waphumelela. Ukuba intombi unomona inkangeleko 'injezu, balahle umona uya ingene ubuhle ezityebileyo, umthambo kunye ukutya entsha. Mhlawumbi akuyi kuba intle kangaka enjengoko anjalo, kodwa kwakhona umgca ngaphantsi zalo eziluncedo, uza kufumana i iyimbalasane imbonakalo yazo, ke ngoko, ukuze bandise nokuzixabisa. Imvakalelo Umona ukuba umhlobo wakhe kancinane kudlula.

Umona abamnyama. Indlela ukuba balahle umona emnyama?
Nokuba oko lenti ngayo, kodwa ikhwele sharpest kuvela kude kakhulu kubantu nempumelelo, hayi Bill Gates okanye Julia Roberts, nangaphandle, isimo sabo kuphela ipropati engcono kakhulu. Ukuba umntu malunga inqanaba lakho izakhono nolwazi wenyusa umsebenzi ophezulu ohlawula, ngoko ke nanku umbuzo: "Kutheni na mna?". Kwaye ke, njengoko batshovo - iye ubunzima. Wena usenokuthi, "Kulungile luck kwixesha elizayo?". Mhlawumbi razobidites ukudalelwa. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, ukuba enze konke okusemandleni ukuqinisekisa ukuba lo msebenzi zange afumane nto. Kule meko zimbini zokugqibela zibonwa ngokucacileyo umona emnyama. Eyona nto imbi kakhulu into abe nomona omnyama - into gloating. Abantu low self-esteem badla ukuba le imvakalelo: "! Mna angalahlekelwa nto". Schadenfreude - kukuthi xa mandivunyelwe ndithethe njalo - ephezulu amazinga ngomona.
Indlela ukuba balahle umona emnyama?
Ukuba ngesiquphe uxakwe imvakalelo ngumona, ukuba nimnqula eqhelekileyo ingqiqo ayithathi nxaxheba. In umzuzwana enjalo ukuphelisa iimvakalelo ubulolo buya umona. Kuyimfuneko ukuba ngokufutshane yedwa ngokwakho indawo ethe cwaka, esekusithekeni apho luzole kwaye ukhululeke. Kufuneka ngento ngokwenene entle eyenzeke ebomini bakho, kuko ingcinga, kumnandi ukuba ayibambe kwentloko yakho yonke imihla de ndaqonda ukuba kukho amathuba amaninzi ebalulekileyo ebomini.