Usapho Traditional: oko aya kwenzeka kuyo kwixesha elizayo?

Yintoni yintsapho eqhelekileyo namhlanje? Kungenzeka, bekungayi kuba efanelekileyo lo mbuzo kwiminyaka engamashumi amabini eyadlulayo. Kutheni na ke ngoku akuthethi ukuba ngisho wothuka ebusweni kwabanye? Makhe uphando.

Okokuqala, kuyinto eyenzekayo ukwazi ukuba iimpendulo abantu babuzwa lo mbuzo yajika ezahlukeneyo. Makhe nisinga isigama States ingqikelelo "intsapho". Ingcaciso iya into efana nale: "Eli qela wayemthanda (ngokwegazi okanye ibhalwe) usapho, abaqhagamshelwe indawo yokuhlala eqhelekileyo kunye attachment ngokweemvakalelo."

Ngaphezu koko, siphawula ukuba olu unyango ayikho ukuba akukho nto kugxininiswa ekuthiwa uqhagamshelo ngokweemvakalelo, oko kukuthi, uthando, umsa. Vumelanani, ukuba unyana utshatile kwaye sele ehlala nabazali bakhe, loo nto ayithethi ukuba uye wayeka ukuba abe lilungu lentsapho yawo. Ngapha koko, ukuba omnye uthando nangoku. Nakuba kunjalo, wabonakala izibophelelo ezithile emfazini wakhe; ngokuba waye - nentsapho yakhe. Ngoko, kwenzeka into yokuba ngenxa ababini?

usapho Traditional okwangoku ibandakanya umanyano womntu nomfazi, nto leyo ikhokelele nenzala ibonakala.

Makhe sithethe ngayo yonke kuvela. Okokuqala, kukho yimvakalelo ezidibanisa abantu ababini. Ukuqalisa lokuphila ubomi kunye, kukho into efana ubomi ngeendlela ezininzi, uphazamise intshumayelo kamnandi indoda nomfazi ukuhlala kunye. Ngapha koko, akukho nto kukho umzekeliso: "iphenyane Lwentsapho ikhubazekile nxamnye ebomini". Asingabo bonke ilungiselelwe iingxaki ezinjalo, kuba ujika ukuba uthando iyodwa ayanelanga ukuba usapho. Iifilimu yaseMelika, apho kukho kwindawo lomtshato, wothi isifungo "unembulaleko aze ngenxa yovuyo, xa ukugula nempilo ..." njalo-njalo Oko kukuthi, abantu baya kuba omnye de kufike elo xesha lokwaliwa umntu ucinga ukuba "Kwanele". Kwaye ngoko ke usapho zemveli lugqityiwe aqhelekileyo kakhulu namhlanje mtshato. Qaphela ukuba kwixesha elidlulileyo ipesenti mtshato kunye imitshato ayexhasa kule yokugqibela. Okwangoku, inani iintsapho ezaphukileyo liyenyuka.

Ngokubanzi, amava abonisa ukuba bonke abantu baye ezahlukileyo baceba usapho lwakhe elizayo. Umntu amaphupho yinkosana, enye indoda esisityebi abazizityebi, umntu phezu umnini kunye nabantwana abaninzi. Kodwa asinguye wonke umntu uyaqonda ukuba inkcazelo intsapho ngamnye kufuneka siqale ngothando nangentlonipho. Kwaye ezi mvakalelo priori efanayo. Life, ngelishwa, kuba amafu eqaqambileyo kakhulu kwaye inemibalabala iphupha lamakhwenkwe ezininzi kunye namantombazana. Kubalulekile ukuba singaweli kwaye ufumane i-HIV, nkqu izinto ezincinane yemihla ngemihla.

Mkhwa - amandla amakhulu. Thina ngaba niqhawula baqhelile ukubona into enye, kuba akukho nto injezu thina. Ukuze ukwazi ukupeyinta eqaqambileyo imibala eliphakathi - yinto ubugcisa efuna ukufunda.

Ukongeza, kukho ezininzi iingxaki ezidla kukhokelela ekubeni umtshato. Bayakwazi liyayiqonda kubudlelwane nabanye kunye neengxaki zentlalo.

iisayikholojisti abaninzi bathi usapho yemveli phantsi uphuhliso olukhawulezayo oluntu kunye nokwandisa inani iingxaki nezilingo iqalisa ukuba balahlekelwe ukukwazi ukuphulaphula uve elinye iqela, ngumntu omthandayo. Ngelishwa, thina amaxesha azinazo ixesha elaneleyo iintsapho ezininzi, ngenxa yokuba ikufutshane kangaka, nako ukulinda, kukho izinto ezibaluleke ngakumbi.

Kukho Isaci omkhulu odumileyo Scarlett O'Hara: "Ndiza kucinga ngayo ngomso." Kodwa "kusasa" nalo mntu beze. Khumbula ukuba bahloniphane yaye nokuqonda kuya kunceda lokuphinda abo ulwalamano ubudala, ukuba musa sele ukubona isivumelwano sakho. Noko ke, njengokuba kufanelekile waphawula izilumko, intsapho - ukuba umsebenzi. Akukho mntu wathi bekuya kuba lula. Noko ke, kwethu ngokweemvakalelo ixabisa ngayo. Ngapha koko, le ilula ukuba atyhudise, kunokuba ukuzama ukudibanisa eminye imigca lweso. Yenza nzima ngaphezu atshabalalise. Ngoko ke jonga iindlela ezilula. Yinto - ikamva buthathaka.