Yintoni na udinga ukuba ulonwabo

Mhlawumbi zonke kanye ndizibuza ukuba kufuneka umntu ukuze wonwabe? A eninzi nemali, umsebenzi ngempumelelo, ukufunda omkhulu ... kunye nenye intsapho, abantwana, indlu enkulu kunye inja. Okanye impilo, umyeni ziingcathu, umfazi othembekileyo? Okanye mhlawumbi kancinane yonke into? Okanye nje lukhulu? Kwaye ngoko kwenzeka ukuba ayisekho ifomula enye ulonwabo. Nganye azibona ngayo into yabo, isibetho, yintoni awunazo kweli xesha ebomini.

Ulonwabo akukho ngemali?

Amahlaya ngento yokuba ulonwabo na imali okanye kuzo, wasungula kakhulu. Kakade ke, ubomi lula ngemali, kodwa ngakumbi kunawe? Zingaphi imizekelo fun bezinye abantu abazizityebi, ngomnqweno wabo ngenxa iadrenaline, ingozi, akuvumelekanga. Kwaye zonke nemvo kuhluthe, xa efunyenwe (okanye ilifa ilifa) nemali eyaneleyo na okufunwa yiyo. Zama ukuya, nto ukufezekisa - uyadika. Kwelinye icala, imeko "iholo ukuba umvuzo" kwi waphila obuzolileyo akuthethi ukutsala. Ngoko njani imali engakanani ufuna sonwabe? Mhlawumbi nangoku ntoni, ukuba ngqo ngakumbi, imvakalelo ulonwabo ngemali xa kuhlanganiswa, ngoko ngokungangqalanga. Kwaye phezu kwisifundo movie iyaqhutywa lukhulu, kunye neencwadi sele kwathiwa, yaye ubomi benene njalo uphosa phezulu imizekelo. Kungelo xesha yezimo qatha engqondweni esithi malunga izulu intente.

Ulonwabo - uthando, usapho, abantwana?

Mhlawumbi, le postulate ixhaphake kakhulu phakathi kwamanye amadoda. Kwaye oko akumangalisi na, njengoko imfuneko ukuqhubeka usapho, ilungu nabani (funda: usapho) ezisisiseko. Kaloku, kufuna uhlobo ababhinqileyo ukuba iqabane kunye nabantwana. Ngoko, ubukho babo ebomini bam kuye ukuze bonwabe abantu? Ahn, hayi, akukho ilula kakhulu. Malunga ukungathembeki, ubundlobongela basekhaya, iingxwabangxwaba, enyundululu, ukuphoxeka, iingxaki zobomi usapho kwaye abakwazi ukuthetha. Kodwa kukho kwakhona wodwa ngokwemvelo, nangona izibalo zabo ekhulwini kungekho ngaphezulu kwesithathu. Kwaye kukho abo ngabom ezinganqweneli ukuba abantwana - childfree. Kodwa akubuzwa bathi, ukuba - awonwabanga? Akunjalo! Kunoko, ubukho engumphunga kunye / okanye abantwana baya waqonda njengento esisisongelo kubukho obuzolileyo. Kubonakala, yaye emva koko omnye iresiphi of ulonwabo ayifumanekanga.

Into esemqoka - ezempilo?

Ngoko ke yintoni ekufuneka ukuba sonwabe - ukuba yinto enkulu? Emva kokuba bonke bathi efanayo: Kuya kuba yonke into enkulu enye. Kodwa njani ke ukuba kunye nabantu abakhubazekileyo? Phakathi kwazo kukho iingcali nempumelelo, oomama abonwabileyo, boyise, umfazi oyithandayo. Kodwa abantu abadala abalahlekelwe impilo yabo, a priori zidlulela udidi iingozi? Kodwa ke akunjalo! Kukho abo kwi eselekhulile kakhulu ndonwabe kwaye sife ngoncumo emilebeni yakhe.

Ulonwabo - na?

Njengoko kuvela, ngamnye i "amacandelo 'ubomi serene ngokuyimfuneko kudibana njani" kodwa ". Kulo mzekelo, kufuneka wonwabe? Okanye mhlawumbi oko akakho kuwo onke? Kunoko, ulonwabo ngokuvumelana. Phakathi iminqweno yethu, ubuchule, iimvakalelo. Lo mzuzu xa oku kuvumelana uyeza, kwaye abantu baziva bonwabile. Kodwa kamsinya nje intsalela ilahlekileyo, yaye baphulukana nemvo ulonwabo. Kuyinto e kwentloko yethu, omashini kwaye ngamanye amaxesha eyakhiwe izakhiwo, iminqweno, amaphupha. Feel ulonwabo unqandwe kuthi, uloyiko lwethu, amaxhala, giperotvetstvennost, umnqweno ukuba ixesha kuyo yonke indawo. Idla kwakungavumi yeyokuzingca waqonda ityala, xa umntu ubeka ngokwakhe "iibhloko". "Ngenene ndinetyala, ngaba Ndinelungelo ukonwaba ke ngoko? No! "- kuva (kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ngabom) lisenza, yaye musa ukuzivumela ukuba ndincume, ukuba umthande, ukuthandwa, bonwabile. A uhlobo masochism ngokuzithandela.

Ngoko ke into yokuqala ufuna ukonwaba - ayeke ukwenza samoedstvom. Kangangoko ayinyamezeleki kwaye banal njengoko kuvakala unakho, kodwa ulonwabo ngokwenene thina. Ukuba umntu othanda ukuba lusizi - uya kuba ngolu hlobo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni kunokuthiwa kwenziwani, akunamsebenzi nokuba kwenzeka ntoni ebomini bakhe. Kodwa ke akukho nto inokumthintela kwaye umva.

Okwesibini, kufuneka uzibeke usukelo olusengqiqweni. Umzekelo, ukuba wena ukuthi kufuneka ukuba ikomityi elivuyisayo ikofu kusasa, mhlawumbi, ngokwenene uya kuvakalelwa iyangqinelana engaphakathi, ufunxa isiselo ahlaziyayo sakusasa. Kodwa ukuze siqiniseke ukuba oko kufuneka ukuze sonwabe - oko wazalwa kwintsapho ngabazali usisityebi okanye, umzekelo, ukufumana nenyanga - ngoko abantu abangonwabanga baya ulwazi iphupha engenakwenzeka. Yaye akukho malunga loo mnqweno kufuneka abe phantsi ngakumbi emhlabeni. Kunoko, a eyaneleyo ngakumbi ezicingisisiweyo.

Ekugqibeleni, le ndoda ngokwenene umakhi wakhe ulonwabo siqu. Ngoko ke, le nto ayikho kwamathandabuzo. Noko ke, yintoni kufuneka ukuba sonwabe, wonke umntu ichaza ngokwabo. Okona kubalulekileyo, xa ukusukela akukho ukulibala ukuba ulonwabo kufuneka ibe njongo (oko kukuthi, yintoni sifuna), kunye nenkqubo (into eyenzekayo kuthi).