Apho ukuba ahambe nomntwana

Abantu abatsha baye indoda nomfazi kunye axakekile akha amakhondo omsebenzi abo okanye ngomsebenzi kwiiprojekthi ezintsonkothileyo kwi inkampani edumileyo, singalindelanga ngokwabo babe abazali abanekratshi. Le meko kakhulu kunokwenzeka, kwaye ayikho ngaphandle zesiqhelo.

Ndixinekile phakathi umsebenzi kunye nosapho, abazali abatsha baye babhenela ukuba iinkonzo nomncedisi ongumSuthu, ngoko enkulisa iwotshi, izikolo kunye namaqela ngosuku elide. Kodwa kuza ixesha xa kwaba kancane ukuba bafumane amava kwaye izifikelele ezinye iinjongo zayo, abazali bomntwana isigqibo ukwenza ikhefu. Kukho ixesha simahla, yaye bathuthunjiswe nokuzisola, abazali isigqibo ukusebenzisa ixesha lakhe lokuba nentsapho yakhe yakhe endala-nengane-ganda.

Apha ngesiquphe ukuqala inkathazo pretty big: abazali nkqu lokumelwa bengazi apho ukuhamba umntwana, nkqu nje - indlela ukuphumla nomntwana wakho.

Yintoni ukwenza ntoni?

Kuba isiqalo bekuya kuba luluvo olulungileyo indlela aqhelane umntwana wakho uze ufumanise into ayifunayo yaye yintoni amaphupha. Kubonakala ukuba abantwana abaninzi uzimisele ukuchitha ixesha elininzi nabantu ababathandayo - kubazali bakhe. Ukuze umntwana, umama wakhe enxulumene kakhulu kwendlu, ukhuseleko tu kwaye ithembekile, upapa - the best friend kanti, naye uyakwazi ukufundisa umntwana zonke izinto ezibalulekileyo. Ngoko ke, abantwana esingaka ekhangela kwimpela-veki engonwabanga gqitha xa abazali bam kwakhona, asiloxesha kubo.

Abazali nabo ndicinga le veki, ngokufuthi dream ubuthongo emva kwexesha, hlala esitulweni phambi TV okanye incwadi ezandleni zabo, yaye bayithande iibhiya ezimbalwa kunye nabahlobo, kodwa apho ukuya nomntwana wakho, musa ukucinga. Kubonakala ukuba le ndoda omncinane yedwa kwaye efuna indlela yokuphuma, baphelela akukho yinkampani elungileyo, ukususela ekubeni utshaye, ezama utywala ...

Abazali, bayazi okanye engaqondanga yahluthwa ngokwabo lonxibelelwano umntwana wakho kakhulu ungonwabi, kodwa bendingayazi loo nto.

Ukuba uzama? Yicinge nje ngokuniphumza kunye nomntwana kakuhle.

Ukuba ezifane umntwana wakho leholide kwaye iholide, bonke kunokwenziwa amalungiselelo kakuhle. Kodwa njani ukuchitha iiholide kunye nomntwana wakho? Kakade ke, yonke le mihla ukuhlala nabantwana phambi TV imini yonke okanye uzibhuqabhuqe ikhephu - enkulu ekruqulayo. Cinga kwibhunga kusapho kunye nesicwangciso ngaphandle ngenyameko le mihla. Masithi ukuba kule nkalo, imini nganye iya kunika into entsha. Kwisilayidi sokuqala imini, owesibini - a salo iZiko loFikelelo olwenziwe Lula, phezu iimyuziyam, imidlalo kumabala emidlalo, isekisi, imibhiyozo nabantu, ukuya abamenyiweyo, kwaye ibhola azenza.

Qiniseka ukuzama ukwenza oko wena ndiphupha njengomntwana, kodwa elo phupha zange lazaliseka. Mhlawumbi ufuna ukudlala indima eqongeni? - Beka ukusebenza ekhaya inxaxheba onke amalungu entsapho, bameme abahlobo kunye nabamelwane bakho. Engeze ukukuqinisekisa - uya kuphila.

Kuhle ukuba ahambe nosapho lwakho ukutyelela abahlobo, abangancedekanga wadibana - kwakhona ukuzonwabisa wena nomntwana wakho.

Indlela ukuchitha iiholide kunye nomntwana wakho - ngoku kwaye zicacile. Unga nokuba amalungiselelo iqela yabantwana enkundleni kunye nxaxheba abamelwane kunye nezalamane, elungileyo ukuya uhambo asakhasayo ehlathini ebusika okanye ipaki esixekweni. Wena musa nje ukuhamba, kodwa ukuxelela umntwana malunga nobomi yehlathi ebusika. Beka kunye usana kwentaka, makhe itakane elongeza aphe ukuba axhonywe zeBRT neentaka ukubukela.

Apho ukuya na umntwana? Ehlathini, epakini, isekisi, yeqonga, xa cafe labantwana - amathuba okuzonwabisa, kunye ilungu encinane inani elikhulu iintsapho.

Kodwa inokuba umbuzo yendalo: kutheni konke oku? Kutheni ngeeholide okanye ngexesha leeholide oko kuyimfuneko ukubamba wena nosana lwakho? Mhlawumbi nje ngokwaneleyo ukuba abadala ukuba bakhululeke emsebenzini, kunye nabantwana - ukusuka esikolweni?

Yiloo yonke le ngongoma, ukuba yolonwabo zezenzi, okt ngokupheleleyo sobuvila unobangela ebantwaneni ayikho iimvakalelo HIV, kodwa ntshikilelo ngokwenene. Boy okanye intombazana ngoko bakhululeke kwaye ubunzima obukhulu, ukuzihlalela indlu and xa kuvela ithuba, wasuka waya kungena eyadini, amaxesha amaninzi zokuzonwabisa ezingaqondakaliyo.

Kunjalo akukho bhetele ukuba smash intloko yakhe kancinane ukuphendula lo mbuzo, "Uphi ukuba ahambe nomntwana", kodwa Nika itakane a real iholide, mna nalo lonke usapho?