Ukuhlazeka - yintoni na le nto?

Ukuhlazeka - yenye ye zizinto ezininzi ezinamandla apho psyche yabantu ethe-ethe kakhulu. Kunjalo, le meko unako kwaye kufuneka walwa.

definition

Ukuhlazeka - yindlela umntu ejoliswe abathintela ingqiqo isidima efana le ndoda, nasemehlweni abanye. Esi senzo kuba mhlawumbi bengazi nokuba uyazi, okanye ngenjongo self ngexesha loqeqesho. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba ukuthotywa kungabangela umothuko kakhulu ngokwasengqondweni, kunye nezigulo luvo.

Ukuze into ekufuneka iqwalaselwe umsebenzi onjalo, nehlazo - yinto mothuko kakhulu kwaye ngesibetho kakuhle-ntle. Ukuzithemba kunye nokuthotywa - kuba linyathelo yesine kuluhlu Maslow kaThixo iimfuno. Ngaloo ndlela, umntu isigqibo azame ukuphepha iimeko ezintloni, nto leyo ngokufuthi ekhokelela nangokungabahloniphi sociopathy.

Ukoyika wokuthobeka

Ukuhlazeka - nto ngokuqinisekileyo uzive ungakhululekanga. Uloyiko kubangelwa ubukhulu becala ngenxa yenyaniso yokuba imeko esele enjalo kuba oko akunakwenzeka ngokupheleleyo kusengaphambili. Kulo mzekelo, oku kuxhomekeke iimpawu ngokwasengqondweni lobuqu. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntu uqinisekile yaye uzinzile ngengqondo, cwaka yena asinde isimo esibi (kunokwenzeka ukuba akayi kukushiya, azafunyanelwa ndawo). Kodwa ubuntu nokuthotywa thathaka kuyaphula, nto leyo maxa wambi ekhokelela imiphumo ebuhlungu.

Ukucinezelwa kunye nokuthotywa - kuba iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo intsha waqonda buhlungu. Yaba ngeli xesha ubunjani kunye kwimbono yehlabathi. Ephile ngokusebenzisa ukuhlazeka elivisayo, abantu Lumkela kwabanye ivalwe ngokwayo. Ukuzama ukunciphisa amathuba ukwenzeka meko, uba reclusive-ndlongo, leyo nzima inkqubo lohlengahlengiso eluntwini.

Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba siphephe ukuthotywa?

Ukucinezelwa kunye nokuthotywa akukho namnye uya kuba mnandi. Kungokwemvelo ukuba abantu bazame ukuphepha iimeko ezinjalo, nokuba bangakholwanga ngaphambili nayo imizwa efanayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu bathotywe kwi ungquzulwano. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba le meko iqina, ungasebenzisa ezi ndlela:

• Zama ukuqonda isimo interlocutor yakhe. Ukuba ndlongondlongo, musa ukuzama ukuveza izimvo zabo, nokuba ilungile kuphela.
• Zama ukupholisa meko ngokutshintsha isifundo. Kufuneka kwenziwe ngobunono ukuze singabakhubekisi interlocutor yakhe.
• Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba nokuthotywa - yeyona njongo iphambili ye interlocutor, kufuneka ukuba bazame ukuza nobungqina obuvakalayo kwityala labo. Nokuba ukuba zimke kunye neemvakalelo, jikani nje ahambe.

Indlela yokusinda ukuthotywa?

Ukwehla kwesidima somntu - yindlela self-isiqiniselo, ukuziphindezela, njl Kodwa ke, ukuba umntu lowo unenzondelelo nempembelelo enjalo, Njengokungeniswa kakhulu, nto leyo isenokuyilibazisa istampu phezu bonke ubomi bakhe ... Kukho iimeko xa imeko behlazekile yaba isizathu ngokuzibulala (ingakumbi ulutsha). Ukuze asinde isimo esibi ngaphandle zinganeziphumo ezibi kakhulu psyche, kufuneka sinikele ingqalelo ezi ngcebiso zilandelayo:

• Oku yindlela eqhelekileyo "ukususwa". Kufuneka ukuba baphile ukujongana nabanye ngokungathi nesiganeko esibi akuzange kwenzeke.
• Ukuba awukwazi ukuba isusa kwisikhumbuzo imeko behlazekile, zama ukuba lifune uncedo lwemifanekiso ebonakalayo. Ukuba ekhululekile, masithi ukuba iinkumbulo zakho neemvakalelo ezinxulumene nazo, washa amanzi okanye umoya.
• Khangela nasiphi na into engafunwayo (ezifana isitya oqhiphuke umbilini, i yokudlala endala, ikloko eyaphukileyo i) nokutyala kuyo yonke kelwa zabo. Ngaphezu koko, le nto kufuneka kutshatyalaliswa.
• Ukuba ucinga ukuba babe ngabantu abanamandla ukufumba amandla elibi kwaye uyithumele kwi intshukumo. Impumelelo yakho ngokuqinisekileyo uya iza kuvala zonke iimvakalelo ezimbi ezibangelwa nehlazo.
• Ngubani wahlala phakathi kwimeko hayi Njengokungeniswa, kodwa isifundo ebomini. hlahlela kwenzeka ntoni, ukuba ukuqonda oonobangela yayo. Kwakhona ezixabisa isicwangciso lokuziphatha eziya kukunceda ukuba uphephe ukuhlazeka elizayo.

Ndifanele isicelo kwengqondo?

Udelele iimvakalelo abaninzi sithatyathwe lula. Nangona kunjalo, oku kungabangela umothuko omkhulu kwengqondo. Kuyaqondakala ukuba bonke abantu abafani. Umntu uya kuhlaziswa cwaka, umntu uya kuphuma ukudandatheka wedwa, kwaye umntu bavale inkxaso akayi kuba intuthuzelo. Kwimeko yokugqibela, kunyanzelekile ukuba sibuyele ngengqondo. Yingcali kuya kukunceda kwakhona uzive ngathi yokuba ngokuphelele. Ukongeza, isazi ofanelekileyo uya kukunika iingcebiso esibalulekileyo elizayo, nto leyo eza kuvumela yokuphuma enesidima kwiimeko ongcolileyo.

ukuhlazeka Cultural kwengqondo

iimvakalelo ukoniwa kunokuba neziphumo ezahlukileyo. Ngoko ke, amaxesha amaninzi ukuthotywa yenkcubeko. Ijolise ukuba umntu ungumntu ombi phambi kwabanye, ingqondo ukugculelwa nentshutshiso. Ngokufuthi kumayelana ezinye iimpawu imbonakalo, ukuziphatha, ubomi yakho, njalo-njalo.

Noko ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuba unamandla kangakanani okanye uloyiko lokugwetywa yoluntu, mandundu kakhulu nehlazo nasengqondweni. Oku kubandakanya isimo sengqondo, iimeko ezibuhlungu kunye nemixholo. Ngenxa yoko, umntu kweyela ukudandatheka.

Indlela ukubathoba umntu (ukuba kuthathwe njengesikhokelo action)?

Abantu basoloko Ozidelayo zokujongana omnye nomnye. Bona musa nokuba xa ndikrokra ukuba ilizwi oludale alithethileyo kunokubangela umothuko omkhulu kwengqondo. Indlela ukubathoba umntu? kulula kakhulu kunokuba ukuze kubonakale. Ngamagama athukayo kunye neemeko:

• ebonisa zokwalatha izinto ezicacileyo. Umzekelo: "Wena kufuneka ukuhlamba amazinyo akho!", "Kufuneka ayina iimpahla!", "Aninako slurp etafileni!" Ngaloo ndlela, umntu uzama zibonisa kwinqanaba elisezantsi kuphuhliso ngokwasengqondweni, emzimbeni kunye nezentlalo somdlali welinye icala.
• Ukugxeka ngobuntu abstract zabantu, nto leyo engafunwa ijolise kanye ngqo kuye. Umzekelo: "Ngubani otshayayo icuba, Bedaka!" Lo ngowona mzekelo engenabungozi. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abachaphazelekayo imvakalelo lobuqu okanye imeko ngaphezulu kakhulu.
• Kubonakala ukunika ingcebiso - yinto kwaye muhle. Sekunjalo, kusenokubakho subtext ethile efihlakeleyo. Ukuzama ukunika iingcebiso eziluncedo, abantu bavame interlocutor ekukhanyeni okanye buso ukubonisa kobuzwe ngokwasengqondweni.
• Akuphelelanga ekubeni ibinzana, kodwa imvakalozwi ngayo yena wathi uyakwazi kuyithoba umntu. Ngoko ke, isandi kubuhlungu okanye nekratshi ukuze singabakhubekisi, nokuba uthi into yemihla ngemihla.
• ukugxeka Unconstructive echaphazela abantu iinkanuko kunye neenkolelo. Umzekelo, zithi bonke abantu manqindi - Ugula ngengqondo, ukuba zonke amagcisa - otywala, kunye neemvumi - ngamakhoboka eziyobisi, abantu bazama ukunyelisa indlela yakho.
• Xa usebenza zengcali kwindawo ethile, abantu badla badumise kontanga yayo. Noko ke, oko ukuchazwa umnqweno banciphise umgangatho wocikizeko interlocutor.
• Ukuhleka neziqhulo ngexesha incoko. Person, ngokuqinisekileyo Kuyanikhubekisa kukuhleka ezingafanelekanga, bona babemlandele isigwebo esinzulu kunye nentsingiselo.
• Utshintsho kwesihloko ngesiquphe, xa abanye iintetho umntu ngento ebaluleke kakhulu kubo. Oku kubonisa yokungakhathali kunye nantlonelo.
• Iimpawu imbonakalo - enye izihloko ezininzi ezibuhlungu. Kulula kakhulu ukuba ukudelela umntu enze iinkqubo zangaphakathi, ukuba yikhankanye iziphako mzobo okanye naziphi na iziphene.

isiphelo

Akukho lula ukuya nge nokuthotywa engqondweni nasemzimbeni. Ukuba ufika kwimeko enjalo, kubalulekile ukuba zenze isimo sabo kuyo kakuhle. Kuyabonakala ukuba, ukuzama ukubathoba omnye umntu endaweni yokuqala ozithobayo. Xa uqonde oku, uya kuba lula kakhulu ukuba kusetyenziswa imeko esele ngaphandle wayetshona ekudakumbeni.