Ukukhulelwa emva

Andisekho ngaloo mihla, xa umfazi iminyaka 25-27 ebizwa ngokuba "starorodyaschimi". Bathi akukho kuba babefuna baqhagamshele thile unina elizayo, kodwa ngenxa ngaloo mihla ngokuba "ukukhulelwa emva kwexesha". Ngubani na ke igama ekhubekisayo lisetyenziswa kunqabile kakhulu, ngenxa yokuba iguqukile amaxesha nesimilo, kunye neminyaka koomama.

ukukhulelwa emva kwexesha kwenzeka emva kweminyaka 35. Kwaye ukubaqononondisa lo mba ilula: namhlanje abafazi abaninzi uyalibazisa ukuzala amaxesha kakuhle ngakumbi, ubhekisela umsebenzi, imfundo, izindlu, unomvuzo elungileyo. Iminyaka 35 kuphela ukuba baqalise ukucinga malunga usapho malunga kid. Ukongeza, i kakhulu ukwanda kwenani mtshato kunye remarriages, apho abantwana bazalwa kunye nabazali iminyaka emashumi mane ngaphezu.

Mhlawumbi, kwezi zenzo, kwaye kukho ingqiqo, kodwa kufuneka ulumkele ukuba ukukhulelwa emva kwexesha iquka imiphumo ethile, angathanda ukuba uxelele abo baya kwenza okufanayo.

Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba unciphisa kukwaluphala, amandla okuzala, yaye ngoko, ukukhulelwa kube nzima, kuba yehla kakhulu kunikezelo amaqanda, okubangele ukulibaziseka kuthi ngokwemvelo. Oku kuthintela kwabadala kwenzeka emva kweminyaka engamashumi amane. Iminyaka 35 umngcipheko elandayo ezingaqhelekanga chromosomal usana olungekazalwa. Noko ke, konke oku kungasentla akuthethi ukuba kufuneka kululahla ingcamango ukuqalisa umntwana elide-ilindelwe, kufuneka nje ube nolwazi ngokwaneleyo na imibuzo yakho yonke.

Okokuqala kufuneka ufumane ugqirha ofanelekileyo, ukukhulelwa yakhe emva kwexesha i lokufunda izifundo ezikhethiweyo. Icebo ukuba ubonane sezakhi okuncedayo, kunye nomyeni wakhe ukunciphisa ingozi yesifo yemfuza.

Kwaye xa sele kakhulu emva kwexesha lokuzala? Ngokutsho oogqirha, ukukhulelwa xa wayeneminyaka 50 - kungakhuthazwayo kakhulu, kodwa kumnandi ukuba bajonge abadumileyo abanikela ukuzalwa abakule minyaka yobudala. Emva kokubeleka, encumile Hollywood uncumo lwakhe screens amnandi kunye nolonwabo. Bona, kunye noogqirha zabo kuphela uyazi kangakanani iinzame kwaye ngexesha elinye kunye nemali neendleko kubo ngumama. Kutshanje, oogqirha bathi emva koku-, xa umzimba yomfazi ayisekho nokukotshwa ezipheleleyo iqanda ukukhulelwa kunokwenzeka yinto yokwenene, kodwa namhlanje, xa ubuchwepheshe bale mihla ukuvumela ukuba ukunyanga ubudlolo, neqanda ngokuvumela abafazi abaninzi ukuba babe nabantwana baze emva ukuya exesheni.

Kunye nabo bonke ukukhulelwa emva kweminyaka engama-50 ngenxa yomfazi eqhelekileyo avareji kunokuba inzima kakhulu. Apha, ugqirha elungileyo - yiloo isiqingatha idabi, kuba njengokuba ukuzala emva kwexesha i ingozi enkulu ukuba zombini usana kunye nonina.

Noko ke, kwimeko enjalo, xa umfazi yobudala elide kakhulu lengonyama ngokungalindelekanga ufunda ukuba ukhulelwe. Kwaye ukuba akuzo kwimeko enjalo, ukuze kulondolozwe impilo kunye nokhuseleko umntwana uza kufuneka ulandele izikhokelo ezithile eziya amiselwe ngugqirha - isondlo esifanelekileyo, ukutya okunempilo, ukuphumla rhoqo kunye nezinye izinto ezininzi eziya kuba kubaluleke kakhulu kweli nqanaba, kuquka iinjongo ongqala ngqo kumntu omnye. Kubalulekile ukuba ukusebenza ixesha, ukuba siziqaphele naluphi na utshintsho ezenzeka emzimbeni, kwaye encinane anomaly yaye ngoko nangoko udibane nogqirha wakho.

Ukushwankathela, singatsho into enye kuphela: i ukukhulelwa umthwalo onzima kakhulu ngenxa yomfazi umzimba kweminyaka engamashumi amahlanu, kodwa ukuba ngaba isigqibo ukuthabatha eli nyathelo, emva kokucingisisa zonke "nxamnye" yaye "ewe", ngoko ke kuyimfuneko ukuba ukuphila kwindlela yogcino lwamandla eliphezulu, zilandele ngqo zonke izindululo gqirha kwaye sikholelwe ukuba yonke into aya kuba kakuhle.