Uthando - kulula! (Ingxenye 1)

"Ndiyakuthanda." ibinzana ebalulekileyo. Kulula kakhulu ukuba bathi 'ndisisidenge! "Ngaphezu avume umntu ukuthanda. Kwimeko yokuqala kukho ingxelo Enyanisweni, ubudenge babo, elinesibini - imisebenzi ebekwe phezu ngokwayo kunye iqabane. Nganye lityale ingcamango "uthando" kwakhe, kuphela uyayazi intsingiselo. Kodwa ke umongo efanayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo wonke uthanda. Kodwa uthando ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ubudlelwane ndoda-mfazi kwiimeko ezininzi, kukho enye efanayo. inkanuko bobundlobongela ukuze isiqingatha sayo sesibini, ekukho kuyo idealization yalo. Man-onothando, akazange uqaphele nto kodwa into lalingazi yakhe. Kodwa ke, yeha, oku akamthandi. Kuyinto enkulu ingcamango ezinjengokuthwaxwa eluthandweni. Bonke bafumana loo mzuzu. A ixesha xa kubonakala ukuba kwihlabathi akukho akuyona into ngaphandle kwakhe (yena). Kwaye bonke ubomi ixhomekeke kumntu omnye kuphela. Falling in love - yinto ezayo umfanekiso iqabane efanelekileyo. Kweli nqanaba, kukho idealization iimvakalelo, iimvakalelo nezenzo. Yonke ibonakala isengqiqweni nobumnandi. Kwaye kutheni kusonwabisa engenasiphelo. Kukho into enje njenge "umnikelo." Ziyinyaniso Xa falling in love yeqonga, omabini amaqabane asebenze host isipho. Kwaye kucingwa ukuba ngokwemigaqo yokuziphatha banal, omthandayo omnye komnye. Kodwa ke, ngelishwa, elifutshane waphila isigaba ukuwa eluthandweni. Uthatha iintsuku ezimbalwa ukuya isibini iminyaka. ixesha Nastaot kaThixo, abathathi-nxaxheba yomdlalo, osihloko sithi "Uthando", ukususa iimaski zazo. Inyaniso kukuba ngexesha uthando, omabini amaqabane bazama ukubonisa ngokwabo kwicala ilungileyo. Le yimpendulo omnye idealization komnye. U nga tshinela isifaniso kunye nezilwanyana - ngexesha lokukhwela, abaninzi kubo baqalisa ukubonisa iimpawu zazo ezigqwesileyo (umzekelo, Lunenceba yengwamza iinkunzi Lutho umsila yakhe entle ukubonisa nemazi, leyo bebahle). Kunjalo ke ebantwini. Uthando okanye iziphelo, okanye ikhula iba uthando. Ngelishwa, baqonda ukuba eli inguqu yonke ingeniso ngokwahlukileyo. Ukuqonda ukuba ixesha ulonwabo bethabatheke ngokuphindelela yaphela kunye. Ukuqonda ukuba phambi kwakho akukho mntu mnye yena ngaphambili. Intabatheko iphela xa elinye iqabane (okanye zombini) ukhetha ukubonisa kwakhe oyinyaniso, ukuzithemba kwabanye. Okanye ukukhangela enyanisweni izivamvo, okanye ukwaphula ubudlelwane. Kweli nqanaba ungquzulwano iqala. Kwaye njengokuba kucacile ekuqondeni kwabo ibhanile, intrapersonal (kutheni na le nto? Ngaba ndimthanda (ayo), ngokwenene). ungquzulwano badla ngokuba umlinganiswa puerility. Xa ngamnye kuthi phantsi ngokunzulu "ubuhlungu umntwana" ngubani owaziyo kuphela into uqhubeka esithi: "Andifuni! Can not! Ngeke! Kufanele ube! Andiyi kuninika! My! ". Kunzima kakhulu ukuba isuswe ngokwabo inkqubela sabantwana, luzama ukuseka ubudlelwane yesiqhelo. Enyanisweni ezihlekisayo, indoda kwakunye nomfazi xa sele ngakumbi abantwana, uzale lo mntwana, ukoyisa iintshukumisa 'zobuntwana "babo babe" abantu abadala. "

Akukho mfuneko ukuqonda ungquzulwano njengento eqhelekileyo. Oku nje izaba. Nje isixhobo ukuba oyena nobangela oyinyaniso. Kuyo nayiphi na impikiswano kufuneka ukwazi ukuqonda umgca entle, kwaye musa ityala njengotshaba, kodwa zama ukuqonda ngokwakho. Ukuze uqonde into eyabashukumisela ukuba kweli dabi. Nje ukuqonda ngokwabo. Uthando - oku ngokwamkela izipho neminikelo. Ukunika komnye umntu. Uthando - ukuba umsebenzi. Okokuqala lwalugxile ngokwabo. Ngoku, ingqiqo uthando yathandwa. Ukususela irediyo, i-TV, ezitratweni, ukusuka kuthungelwano loluntu ifikelela kuthi: "Ndiyakuthanda, uthando, uthando». Ixesha kususa kakuhle iikhonsepthi. Into kuphela ukuba iya kuhlala injalo - esithi "I love you" kufuneka baqiniseke iimvakalelo zakhe yena, ngenxa yokuba ukusuka nje ukuba eli binzana, Owazithethayo iqonga EZIMBINI iqala. Lala ngothando - mbi kunokuba nje uthando. Onothando umntu ukuthi "Andiyithandi", emva wathembela bakholwa eluthandweni, agwaze mandundu phaya emva. nzima kakhulu.

Abantu abaninzi bakholelwa inqaba uthando - usapho nomtshato. Ngokoluvo lwam, kuba kwakhona lendaba ukuba kuqwalaselwa inqaba ukholo kuThixo - ebandleni. Uthando ukholo lokwenyaniso, kufuneka eze kuvela umphefumlo. Ngokusuka entliziyweni. Akwenzeki ukudibanisa ngesondo, ngokuvumelana zasekhaya kunye nothando emtshatweni. ubandlululo oyedwa azibonakali. Uninzi Izibini imanyano uthando eqongeni. Kwaye amanani abonisa ukuba abantu abaninzi singoyisa utshintsho isigaba ukuba uthando kunye ngothando. Ukuqonda ukuba eziluncedo omnye komnye, nokuqaphela uthando njengokufuna umntu, ingqiqo yokuba lo mntu lowo unako (kwaye kufanele) bachithe ubomi babo bonke - enye iinkuthazo ezimbalwa ukuya emtshatweni. Kwaye abangangeni eluthandweni.

Lo mbuzo nzima uthando ukuxoxa, kuba wonk 'sifumana ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Andenzi ndizama umntu ukukhusela uluvo lwakho. Ke ukuba inqaku lam liza kukwenza ube ucinga yaye iza ntoni - ndiya konwaba kakhulu. Ukuze yaqhubeka ...