Ixhoba - oko kukuthi: lusizo, okanye indlela elula ukusinda?

Ntoni igama elithi "umnikelo", apho iimeko ebomini igalelo ukuvela umntu onjalo, yaye yintoni na ke psychology of olu hlobo lwabantu. Oku yaye ezininzi ingafumaneka kweli nqaku.

Intsingiselo yegama elithi "ulixhoba"

"Victim" - on Dictionary ulwimi Russian Ozhegova kuthetha nantoni waziswa isithixo njengesipho (ophilayo, nasiphi na isifundo), okanye umnikelo isipho woothixo. Kwenye indlela ubekwa njengedini.

Enye incazelo - eli ligatya umntu okanye into ethile wakhetha omnye. Kubonakala ngathi umbingelelo.

lobeko sesithathu elithi "ulixhoba" - umntu okanye naliphi na izidalwa eziphilayo ethwele ukubandezeleka ukungaphumeleli, usizi nobundlobongela (amaxhoba obundlobongela, intlekele, izinto, njalo njalo).

Oko kuthetha ixhoba - zama ukufumana phandle, esazi kakuhle eli psychology of ixhoba, indima abaphulaphuli kunye nabantu bayo.

Umongo psychology yexhoba

Eyona ndlela ibalulekileyo enokubakho ixhoba na uloyiko. Kwindalo, wonke umzimba Lize ngokwahlukileyo kule meko. Lonwabu itshintsha umbala wayo, alpha kunye abangasekhoyo umbala imvelo, iqina ixhama, uyawuvingcela yayo ngunonkala iqokobhe yedwa, iqaqa uphosa kakhulu ulwelo uyanuka nomsondlo ikati, zongameleyo emqolo.

Kwaye yintoni ke psychology of ixhoba-mntu?

Wenza ntoni njani xa sijamelene nemeko eyingozi? Ehleka, ezama ukuba ayibulale, izikhumba, ubaleka, ufumana ukugwetyelwa okanye uzenza ukuba akakhathali?

Ixhoba - ntoni na? Kule meko indawo ixhoba engalindelekanga kongomeke. Xa bengqondo, kukho icandelo elikhethekileyo - othile ( "CGIL" liguqulelwe ngokusuka IsiNgesi "ulixhoba").

Zengqondo baye kudala imibuzo ukuba ogcweleyo kuba izaphuli-mthetho ngamnye kwaye yintoni na kwingcingane amaxhoba. Ngokutsho amabali amaninzi kwemizimba bokuphanda, abagwebi nokugweba, kubonakala ukuba amaxhoba nabo iimpawu ezithile eziqhelekileyo - kokubini yokuziphatha kunye nendlela yokucinga.

Ngubani na khona ecaleni ixhoba?

Kuyo nayiphi na impikiswano kukho kusoloko ezintathu ezinxulumene omnye komnye indima-isikhundla. Ixhoba awukwazi ukubakhona ngaphandle omnye ummeli.

Kwenzeka ntoni emva nje kokuba baqalise ukuba basebenzisane? Kakade ke, kukho kwakhona kubonakala ecaleni eyesithathu - uTshawe-uMsindisi, ngubani uzama uvikele kuhlaselo yale ngozi. Eli bali kuxhaphakile iintsomi.

Kodwa iintsomi iprofeta okubi lokwenyaniso kohlwaywa, ixhoba ilungiswa noMsindisi uthobekileyo wahamba. Kwaye wonk 'ubani ukufunda okanye ndilolonga kuyinto Qinisekisa ukuba ubhalo lokugqibela nangaliphi na ixesha, ukuba nibuye ukunceda wonke "ezilungileyo" ukohlwaya "embi". Yinto elula.

Kwenzeka ntoni ebomini?

Injalo umbingelelo sentsomi. Yintoni na ebomini bakho? Kukho akufane kulula kwaye acacile. kanye kwisiqwenga somzabalazo phakathi kokulungileyo nokubi rhoqo kuvela kwi uluntu ngokuphathelele nathi iimeko ababanazo imihla ngemihla. Kodwa ke ngamnye kumaqela akwingxabano, njengokuba umthetho, uqinisekile ukuba yeyona ilungileyo, oko kukuthi ixhoba lilishwa yokuhlaselwa sikweni.

Elinye iqela kwimbambano idlala indima ububi, yaye kwimeko engcono - ngenxa yokungazi, kakuhle, xa okubi - inkohlakalo ngabom.

Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba indima umguvela kunokuba nje umhlaseli ethile, kwaye umzekelo, imithetho "ephosakeleyo," kuphikisana, iimveliso ephantsi-umgangatho, izibhengezo ezikhohlisayo njenge ngakumbi.

Yaye umsindisi ngokohlobo intsomi iintsomi elungileyo, nje inqaku umntu kaThixo linegunya, igqwetha, ugqirha, wengqondo, ipolisa, wengqondo, 'inkundla' abahlobo kunye nosapho okanye nje amanqindi umxhelo.

Kutheni ngamanye amaxesha kuluncedo kuba nendima lixhoba?

Ngamanye amaxesha Inzuzo kwixhoba. Yintoni na loo nto ukuze kuzuze? Ngumzali, kodwa endaweni yexhoba (okanye bembonisa nje kule ndima) maxa wambi yingenelo.

Kuyenzeka ukuba kukho iingxaki ezithintela umntu ukuba enze oko akufunayo. Kwaye kukho ingxaki yokuba swi nga pfuna ku endla into ayifunayo. Kuyinto kakhulu uncedo (ezizisekondari).

Imizekelo belanga singenamandla

Umzekelo, ukuba umntu esandleni nawuphi na umonakalo (nangokhwekhwe, umzekelo), ngoko oku benesizathu bagqibelele ukuhlamba izitya ngonaphakade.

Okanye, nithi, xa umfazi - umama wabantwana abathathu, kwixa elizayo (iminyaka embalwa), kunokwenzeka ukuba bangakhathazeki malunga neengxaki zokukhula umsebenzi.

Kukho iimeko ezininzi ezinjalo.

Kuba baninzi, lidiniwe singenamandla izizathu ezivakalayo ukuba bafake izicelo zokuncediswa esisigxina (kakuhle okwenzekayo xa umntu ecinga ukuba akayi kuba nako ukufumana uncedo kuba nje).

Iingxaki emsebenzini ukuzithethelela imivuzo ephantsi okanye uphikisana kunye nabo babathandayo.

Inkxalabo malunga abazali abalupheleyo awuvumeli umntu ukuba ashiye ikhaya labo bajongene neengxaki zokuphila ezizimeleyo.

kanye iimeko igalelo ukuvela yezizathu (kodwa hayi zonke basebenzise le) ukwenzela imvelaphi yomntu kwisikhundla sokuba "ulixhoba". Yintoni ebangela eli binzana - impendulo ifunyanwa.

Yiloo nto abantu abaninzi, yaye unamathele lusizo kwacaca futhi abazimisele ukuze basindiswe ngumntu. Ngoko ke ubomi ngazo elula.