Utshintsho ntombazana? Funda ukuba yintoni onokuyenza ukuze ubuyele kuye.

Ngoku ungatshintsha kuphela amadoda kodwa abafazi. Kwaye ukuba ukungathembeki amadoda ngokulandelelana izinto (ukususela kwinqanaba Ngenxa namadoda ngokwawo), imazi ithathwa okuziintloni kakhulu yaye into embi. Umntu ufumanisa ukuba utshintsho yakhe intombi iza ngumsindo nje. Njengokuba kunjalo, bathotywe ego oyindoda! Enyanisweni, amantombazana amaninzi nga kakuhle wakhokela amadoda impumlo, ngokuhlakanipha ifihla zonke iihambo am ukuba ekhohlo. Kodwa njengoko bathi, yonke imihla iba sobala. Xa umntu ufunda ukuba intombi yakhe iyatshintsha, yaye kakhulu ixesha elide. Njengomgaqo, xelela abahlobo bakho ngayo okanye intombazana yena ngexesha elinye kwengxabano. Umntu akanako ndoqhayisa ukugwegweleza bengqondo, kodwa ke wazi ukuba yena itshintshayo. Le ntombazana yena unakho anikezela ngoku kulandelayo: uyala ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, ukuba wayebhekisela kwinto yokuba namhlanje kuyimfuneko, umzekelo, ukuhlala kunye nomakhulu bam; SMS ibitheni kubantu; ngamanye amaxesha ubiza igama komnye umntu; zabanda esililini; amaqoqo of iintyatyambo indlu, thaca ngokucacileyo kwabanye abantu.

Ke kaloku, ukuze wazi ukuba ngokufumanisa ukuba ingaba utshintsho intombazana. Wena uno ngumphunga ngayo ukutshintsha okanye ngokuchasene noko, uyohlwaywa ngabo okwahlukileyo. Ukuba intombi yakho isebenza kuphela kuwe, siyavuyisana. Yintoni onokuyenza ukuba uqinisekile ukuba ukuyitshintsha?

Mhlawumbi ubuya awufuni ukuba benze eningakwaziyo nina. Okokuqala, uthethe intombazana, Khawundixelele ukuba utheni na ukuba uze ulindele ukusuka incazelo yakhe. Indlela kuphela ukusombulula ingxaki asingethandi elowo: eyakhe likratshi kuloyisa. Emva koko ke ukhetho engcono - iyingxenye. Ukuba uyakuthanda, ngoko, kuya kuba bakhathazeke kakhulu malunga rasstovanii yakho. Kungenjalo, uya kuqhubeka intlanganiso yalo kunye nenye indoda, kodwa uya khumbula ukuguqula indlela iphepha yobomi. Ukuba akatshintshi, ngoko bayeke ukuba uthando olomeleleyo kunye crazy. Uya kukwazi ukunika kuye konke oku? Ngoko zama ukufumana nalo ilibuyise, amehlo zivaliwe phezu lokungcatsha yaye awelela ikratshi lakhe. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba inxalenye ufuna ngokwenene, kuqala kwiinto zonke, ukuba ukuqonda iimvakalelo zabo.

Ngoko njani ukubuyela le ntombazana? Okokuqala, uhlale phantsi uze ucinge ngazo zonke izinto ezintle. Zama ukuqonda isizathu sokuba utshintsha, ukuba sihamba zihlandlo ezinjalo. Mhlawumbi yena aneliseke ebomini bakho ngesondo, yaye mhlawumbi akayithandi ezinye imikhwa zakho. Kholwani ndim, oonobangela kokungathembeki ababhinqileyo okukhulu. Kodwa kufuneka sihlole iintsilelo zabo. Okulandelayo, dlulela ukuthatha inyathelo. Awunayo mfuneko ngezipho zexabiso, kodwa ukuze alungiselele uhambo ukuya yokutyela onalo. Indlela nice ukuba ahlale ekhaya nekhandlela okanye ukuhamba yodwa kweli lizwe, apho akuyi kuphazamisana iimbono amazwe. Ngamafutshane, ukwenza into eya kwenza kucace ukuba uthando lwakho olungenamda. Xa incoko, unako ngobunono ezingabambi isihloko ukuyitshintsha, kodwa ukuba engentle nesihloko, kungcono ukuba angamchukumisi. Uye wagqiba ukwenza uxolo ngayo, oko kuthetha ukuba yonke into phambi kokuba, kuya kufuneka ukuba ukulibala. Kungcono ukucinga ezimnandi, umzekelo, wena waya isekisi, okanye ukupheka kunye ikeyiki. Vumela ntombazane kuvuya ukuba undilibele nto, ngoko lazise ubudlelwane. Kuyimfuneko ukuba ukuthatha ingqalelo yokuba yaphuma ngomhla. Ukuba akazange abe iimvakalelo kuwe, ngoko mhlawumbi kwakungayi kuba wayefuna ukuvuselela ubudlelwane elidlulileyo.

Okokugqibela, kokuba nithethile waza wagqiba ukuba ufuna ukuba ube kunye kwakhona. Zonke onokuyenza ukuze uhlamba iintyatyambo nebhinqa ingqalelo yakhe. Ndimthanda njengoko akuwuthandanga ngaphambili. Eneneni, ngamanye amaxesha, ukuze kugcinwe ulwalamano, kufuneka igqithe ngokwabo uvale amehlo abo ukuba izinto ezifana uyajola. Ukongezelela, abantu abaninzi abazange engqondweni utshintsho. Kulo mzekelo, naye, umfazi angaba nokuqonda. Kaloku, ukuba awukho omnye wabo, kwaye ethembekile nto ndiyithanda kakhulu.