Yintoni ukuphululwa? impembelelo abaxhaphaza

Umbuzo: "Yintoni na ukuphululwa?" nawe uyakwazi ukufumana impendulo malunga nefuthe zengqondo ukuze aphumeze izibonelelo ezithile zobuqu. Kulo mzekelo nemiphumo efanayo idla ifihliwe.

Yintoni entamo

Entamo uhlobo ubuchule ngokwasengqondweni, ekuthi kujongwe ukuba ukunyanzela umntu iintshukumo ezithile ezichasene iminqweno yakhe. Xa olu liba kungekhona ekuhleni, kodwa ezifihlakeleyo. Undoqo yokuntlokothiswa kukuba ubuntu, ephantsi koxinzelelo ngokwayo kufuneka ufuna ukwenza iintshukumo ezithile, kwanokuba oko akukho nzuzo.

Xa amaqhinga babhenele xa besoyika ukusilela okanye ngabom bakholelwa isiphumo esibi yeshishini elithile. Mhlawumbi nabo abantu ongayiqondiyo ngokupheleleyo ukuba okubi ezinjalo, engaqondanga, okudla ukusebenzisa le iqhinga engqondweni ukuba ukufikelela kwiinjongo zabo. Nkqu sivumelane yabantwana nga ngandlel 'ithile ukuba kwaziwe ukuba ifuthe ukuphululwa.

Kutheni abantu bakhetha kuyo

Ukuze enze izakhi ethile ukuba isizathu, nto leyo isenokuba wokuzimisela okanye ngokugqithisileyo. Ngoko ke, ubuchule ezinjalo zenza abantu zilandelayo:

• usengozini yokuba nzima okanye ayinakwenzeka imeko (kulo mzekelo umntu uqalisa ukusebenzisa ukuze kuthintelwe ezinye lingavumi);
• ukungaqiniseki amakhono abo kudla ngokukhokelela ekubeni into yokuba umntu engaqondanga lizama ukuphembelela abanye;
• uxinzelelo loluntu, kwakunye iingcinga ezinxulumene kwindawo ethile, ngokufuthi bakhuthazwa ukuba ukuxhaphaza, injongo yazo kukuba ukufihla okanye abanasikhuselo izenzo ezithile;
• sengqondo ophambene umntu othile, ngokunjalo umnqweno ukuziphindezela kaninzi ibanga iziphumo ngokwasengqondweni;
• buqhinga rhoqo uba banganyaniseki ukuphumeza iinjongo yokuzanelisa.

Indlela yokungenelela ukuphululwa

Ukuba iyitshinizele nesibakala sokuba okubi ezinjalo, kubalulekile ukuba baqhelane iindlela zalo neutralization. Ngoko ke, ukuze uphephe ifuthe ngokwasengqondweni, kucetyiswa ukuba usebenzise obu buchule bulandelayo:

• beqaphela ukuxhaphaza, kuyimfuneko ukuba ngoko nangoko kwaye ngokuphandle ukuvakalisa inadmissibility kwe isiphumo enjalo phezu kwakho (ukuba oko kubangelwa ukungazithembi, impendulo ezibukhali ezifana nangoko wadimazeka yi kumdlali welinye icala);
• neenjongo Disclosure eneqikili yaye ebhenca ukuba nabanye (ukubhengezwa leefekthi ntofontofo iya kwenza igalelo olungasebenziyo ezingafanelekanga);
• Ukuba uziva ingcinezelo elikhuselayo umnxeba ngayo ingxoxo ukucacisa le meko kwaye isigqibo iintshukumisa (kwizibhambathiso anokufunyanwa ekuhambeni incoko);
• kakhulu indlela eziluncedo ekulweni ukusetyenziswa umhlalutyi yabantu esizama ukufaka uxinzelelo phezu kwakho;
• ukuba uqonde ukuba amazwe swi nga ku pfuna leswaku balahle yengcinezelo evela ecaleni, ekwazi ukumelana kumdlali welinye icala, ukuba babe kunye naye ngeziqu evulekileyo (nenkcaso nizisukele ngaphandle umlembelele);
• Zama ukuphendula manipulation nokuqhathwa.

Wazi njani ukuba iphenjelelwa?

Ukuphululwa (of exposure) usenokuba ezahlukeneyo ukwenza izinto, kunye ukulwa nayo ngempumelelo, kubalulekile ukuba akwazi ukuzibona. Ngoko ke, oko kukhatshwa ezi meko zilandelayo:

• imvakalelo kabi engqondweni kunye nokungabikho ekuqiqeni kwi ukulandelelana kweziganeko;
• ayiphikisani ngamazwi nangezenzo uthumela njengotshaba;
• ingcinezelo incoko;
• mood evuna kwi ingalo, ngokuxhomekeka ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuphumeza ezinqwenelekayo;
• umoya yokungathembani phakathi interlocutors.

tricks elula

Bucala le zazo alula alandelayo:

• ukuzama ukufezekisa iinjongo zabo, ngokusekelwe nenzondo okanye ityala (kulo mzekelo, icala uqala ukuba uzive unyanzelekile ukuba ukukholisa i "ulixhoba");
• impembelelo zengqondo cwaka zangathi ziziikopi zezo ukubonisa sigulo ngengqondo uze uzobe ingqalelo iimvakalelo zabo;
• ukuphululwa umsindo kunye nezinye iimvakalelo ezingalunganga isekelwe kwinto yokuba blackmailer sibonakalisa isimo yayo esingangqinelaniyo ngokwasengqondweni, uzama ukufumana ukuba izenzo ezithile okanye ngelungelo;
• uxinzelelo ukuba nemvakalelo yothando ilungiselelwe ukuvala abantu (badla kwiimeko ezinjalo kwenzeka kwiintsapho okanye izibini apho elinye iqela uthi sengqondo esihle, ukuzama ukufezekisa iinjongo lokuzingca);
• isithembiso kunye nendalo njengoko interlocutor ethile themba indlela eliqhelekileyo ukwenzela ukuba bamqumbise umntu isenzo okanye umsebenzi;
• amampunge buqhinga kuthetha ukuzinyanzela ngokubonisa isimo phezulu;
• impoxo, nokudelela kungaba knock umntu aphume into eyodwa, iyenza owayetyekele ngakumbi malunga nolawulo.

zazo complex

linokuchazwa ngale ndlela ilandelayo iindlela Sophisticated yokuntlokothiswa:

• le ndlela njengendlela shift bethetha, kaninzi zifumaneka kumajelo eendaba (iindaba inye kwenziwa ngokwahlukeneyo kakhulu ukuba ukugxininisa izibakala ezithile);
• amagama athile okanye kwiimeko kunokubangela umntu obuninzi mintlhaveko leyo eyenza kube lula ukulawula inkqubo kubo;
• ukunika umntu ufaka izenzo ezithile, musa ukuba sithethe ngale nto lungelo (le ukusetyenziswa imvakalozwi zogxininiso efanelekileyo okanye kwifomu yesicelo);
• koxinzelelo zengqondo, kwakunye yokudlala iimvakalelo ezinamandla ukuze benze izenzo zabo mthethweni ezibalulekileyo kangako imvelaphi yabo;
• ukuba eneqikili akukho ngxoxo ukuya kufikelela ukuziphatha kunye neemfuno, yena uqala ukubonisa ityala ndlongondlongo, uzama ukufumana kude ingxoxo eyakhayo;
• indlela ingxabano ukufuduka silele yokuba, hayi ukuba iingxoxo ngokwaneleyo obucacileyo ezixhasa benixambulisana, umntu uqalisa ukumgxeka ngenkuthalo kuye;
• ozakudidekisa welinye icala, eneqikili sinokufaka umsinga yakhe yonke imibuzo ngenjongo naye ukuze bammangalele kamva yokungabikho yokuqonda kunye nokuba mathidala ukunika impendulo eneenkcukacha.

Njengoko kwenzeka

Algorithm ukulawula ukwazi loluntu kubonisa sicatshulwa izigaba eziliqela ezilandelelanayo:

• ngokuzoba umfanekiso engqondweni yomntu othile okanye iqela ngenjongo yokufumanisa iinkolelo kunye neemfundiso ezisisiseko;
• ukuzisa imeko ecetywayo ngokungqinelana ne sezulu kuluntu kukungakhuseleki ngokusebenzisa amajelo eendaba kunye nezinye iindlela;
• ukusetyenziswa kweendlela ezithile eziya kuncedisana utshintsho ukuya uMbuso omtsha;
• ulawulo elandelayo imeko ukwenzela ukuthintela ukutenxa kule khosi iseti lophuhliso.

iintlobo yokuntlokothiswa

Ukuzama ukuphumeza iinjongo ezithile, umntu angasebenzisa zonke iintlobo iindlela yempembelelo engqondweni. Kule nkalo, kubalulekile ukuqonda oko izenzo bagqiba ukuba anikezele:

• izakhi ngabom obunenjongo izicwangciso (umntu wazi kakuhle algorithm yezenzo zabo ukuze kufikelelwe isiphumo efunekayo);
• izakhi zingqondweni akuvumelekanga phantsi injongo ethile, kwaye umntu ukuba iphuhlise isicwangciso ecacileyo kunye nokunikezelwa ngendlela eyiyo iindlela zempembelelo kwi njengotshaba (umzekelo badla ingalawuleki kuphuhliswa phantsi kwempembelelo Iimvakalelo);
• iilwimi (okanye ngokunxibelelana) esekelwe ukusetyenziswa ubuchule bokuthetha esidlangalaleni bomntu, apho efuna ukuba bamqumbise umntu phezu izenzo ezithile;
• izakhi yokuziphatha esekelwe inzaliseko iintlobo ezithile yokuziphatha kunye nezenzo musa ukuba ubuchule ezongezelelweyo ngomlomo.

ukuxhaphaza kuthetha

Ukuze enze ukuxhaphaza, lo mntu unokusebenzisa ezi ndlela zilandelayo:

• unxibelelwano ngomlomo ngenjongo iinkolelo umchasi ilungile uze ubize ngezenzo;
• icandelo ngokweemvakalelo, olujoliswe ebonisa iimvakalelo zabo okanye umngeni nalawo interlocutor;
• isibheno ukungxamiseka unkqonkqozayo elichasayo ukulinganisela kwaye ifuna izigqibo ngokungxama quick isigqibo;
• ukuphindaphindwa lomgadi zityholo ezifanayo ukubeka uxinzelelo phezu interlocutor;
• ulwabiwo inxalenye ethile nemeko lulonke lo mcimbi ukuze anikele imeko nxalenye inzuzo;
• ukuthetha ngalo mba ngaphandle kokuchaza umxholo kunye nenani iimeko ezibalulekileyo akwazi ukucacisa le meko;
• i kwezithandani unoluvo malunga ngu intelekelelo;
• sebenzisa yokucinga ukungaphangalali ukweyisela abanye ukuchaneka;
• ingcamango uluvo nolwazi njongo kwaye zingqinisiswe evela kwimithombo ethembekileyo;
• uxinzelelo kuye esebenzisa igunya lakhe, okanye umgangatho ophezulu entlalweni.

ukuba sengozini

Kaninzi iSADC yokuntlokothiswa babantu zilandelayo:

• banqwenela ukukholisa ezintweni zonke ngeenxa kwaye ufumane imvume esisigxina;
• abantu boyika ingxabano lwebala;
• umntu owayamileyo kwaye izigqibo (ngokuxhomekeke kuphela enye beziva intuthuzelo emotional);
• abangenamava abakholelwa ukunyaniseka tye zabanye;
• altruists, ngubani bakugqala umsebenzi wabo macala onke ukunceda;
• abantu okuyingozi abenza izigqibo ezibalulekileyo phantsi kweempembelelo iimvakalelo ngokukhawuleza;
• abantu abaselula abaye angekayazi eyona yezikhundla zabo ebomini, yaye befuna igunya;
• ladies abangatshatanga ufuna unxibelelwano kunye nobuhlobo;
• abantu insecure abo ingqalelo izimvo zabanye ezifanelekileyo ubengo, eyakhe.

isiphelo

Manipulation zabantu - kodwa indlela womeleleyo impembelelo nangokwasengqondweni (ngokufuthi efihliweyo), nto leyo equka enyanzela interlocutor kuyo nayiphi na intshukumo (le yokugqibela kukuba uqiniseke ukuba ufuna). izenzakalo ezifanayo Inokwenzeka zombini ngabom kwaye ngokuzenzekelayo. Kulo mzekelo, impumelelo yokuntlokothiswa ixhomekeke kumntu naphezu neempawu zengqondo bomntu, lowo wayalela impembelelo.

Izizathu buqhinga uya kulala uhlobo lomntu okanye iimeko zangaphandle. Ngoko ke, amaxesha amaninzi babhenela kuyo ngabantu kuphakuzela ukoyika ntlekele yaye uzama siyiphephe. Kwakhona, le hlobo iindlela abantu bengakhuselekanga nje ungaboni nayiphi na enye indlela yokufezekisa iinjongo zabo. Buqhinga kungabangela kube phakathi kwabantu, kwakunye ndlela yokufumana badlale.

Ukuze ukuxhathisa ukuxhaphaza, kufuneka kufumana amandla ukunika impendulo ngqwabalala kwaye khupha isilumkiso malunga inadmissibility yeso senzo. Ubani aqonde ukuba iminkqangiyelo yakhe zibonakalaliswe. Kungcono ukuba le nto iye zasasazwa ngokubanzi ukuze ukuvala eneqikili ngakumbi iindlela ukuthatha inyathelo.