Kutheth 'ukuthini ukuba wonwabe? Reflections on kumxholo obungunaphakade.

Kutheth 'ukuthini ukuba ndonwabe? Akukho fisa iholide akakwazi ukwenza ngaphandle elithi "ulonwabo". Sonke sifuna ukonwaba, ngoko abanye abantu bafuna into enye. Ubuncinane kanye kubomi nawuphi na umntu ukuya izibhengezo umxholo ulonwabo. Siyazi kakuhle ukuba wonke umntu lakhe.

Kutheth 'ukuthini ukuba ukonwaba ukuba umntwana oselula? Owomileyo, efudumeleyo, okunencasa, ekhuselekileyo - ukulala kakuhle, uncumo lwam unina, zikhule. Kufuneka kusala yedwa, ukuziva ixhala kancinane - ulonwabo iphelile.

Kutheth 'ukuthini ukuba ukonwaba ukuba ibanga lokuqala? Beautiful zokubhalela potfoliyo, izihlobo, esifunda nabo, imidlalo nezinto zokudlala. Kwaye izikhokeli kwindawo ngabazali oyintanda, enze Sininqwenelela.

Kutheth 'ukuthini ukuba ukonwaba ukuba elivisayo? iimpahla kusefashonini, intombi entle, subculture gay. Kwaye malunga nenkxaso "izinyanya" eziphathekayo musa ukulibala.

Kutheth 'ukuthini ukuba ukonwaba ukuba umntwana ohlala kwikhaya leenkedama? Ndiyabona yonke imini umama wam ubambe wakhe. ukukhathalela umntwana umama wam usela wambi kukhokelela endlwini ngabantu esingabaziyo. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo - ukuze abe kunye nomama wakhe enye, uhlala usapho, kodwa hayi nabantwana ezifanayo ezihlelelekileyo.

Kwaye ngoko thina sikhula phezulu, babe abadala. iimfuno zethu tshintsha. Kwaye bonke ubomi kwangcwaliselwa ukuba ukubamba ntsako eyeyomzuzwana: ukuthenga imodeli entsha imoto, hamba uye elwandle okanye ukwenza ukuba ingumona oogxa. Umntu omnye imfuneko - ukuze sisinde kule kuluntu enzima. Ngokubanzi, wonke umntu ulonwabo lwakhe - ngokweemfuno zakhe.

Ngoku abaninzi bayazi iimfuno iphiramidi Maslow ngayo. Emazantsi - iimfuno komzimba, eziquka unxano, indlala, inkanuko yesini, kunye nabanye. Emva koko, unyuka usiya phezulu, kukho iimfuno zokhuseleko, endingowakhe kunye nothando, ngokuhlonipha. Lingaphezulu - cognitive iimfuno, kubuhle. Uyabahombisa iphiramidi - imfuneko self-ulwazi, self-ukuqaphela eluntwini. Kwinyathelo ngalinye umntu uziva onwabile ukuba ukuswela wakhe awahlutha.

Kodwa kutheni Maslow ichonge iintswelo kuphela ngenjongo ngokwabo? Ngelishwa, kuluntu lwethu namhlanje ilinywe lo mgaqo yolonwabo. Advertising, ifilim, TV, iimagazini ibango ixabiso ukuzonwabisa. Ndonwaba - umntu onwabe, akukho mnandi - bengonwabanga. bonke sihla ukuhlangabezana neemfuno, kwaye hayi kweliphezulu, kodwa kunokuba nizchayshih. Kodwa ukwanelisa isidingo sabo - eli lixesha elinye-ulonwabo.

Ukuba ucela ngokuphandle, ezintliziyweni zethu sivakalelwa kukuba ulonwabo - yinto enye, nto leyo obungunaphakade. Kanye uthando, ingqiqo nto leyo nayo azezi iimfuno kwinqanaba elisezantsi.

Kodwa uthando - amaxabiso zamaKristu. UThixo - apho luthando. NoKristu ngokwaKhe wabonisa ukuba uthando - sisigqibo, kungekhona ukuziva. Kwaye oko ingachazwayo self-ulwaneliseko, kunye nobomi creative ngenxa komnye umntu.

Amazwi athi "I love you" ngaphandle Kwiimeko ezithile baya kuhlala nje ibinzana engenanto. Ngaba uyavumelana nam, abo ubuncinane kanye silibonile uvuyo nolonwabo ngumntu omthandayo, abo benziwa ngesandla zakho. Abo amehlo happy kuhlala ngonaphakade kwimemori, baxhasa ngomzuzu ukudimazeka ukungaphumeleli. Ukukhawulelana neemfuno zabanye - olu vuyo, nokuba ingqondo obungunaphakade?

Nenkathalo, ububele, uthando, xa ludibene nokuthanda kuzisa ulonwabo kuphela ukubandezeleka, kodwa nabo uncedo, uthando.

Mhlawumbi bathi konke oku lunqgukuva kakhulu, hayi kum. A ulwalamano lwentsapho, xa isibini esitshatileyo? Olunjani uvuyo bekhulisa? Ukuba umntu kunye nothando umfazi esanelisa eyakhe inyama, iminqweno, iimfuno, ayikho elide eli ithamsanqa. Ngaphambi kokuba kuvele ingxabano lokuqala kakhulu. Kodwa ukuzalana uthando, eyakhelwe imigaqo yobuKristu, ndiyizalise ikhaya lakho kunye nolonwabo. Uthando abakuthandayo okanye wayethanda ukuzisa ulonwabo novuyo. Kwaye ukuba unoyolo ukuthanda.